Daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law: why must they often undermine and sneer at each other?

Answer 1

because a lot of mother in laws are controlling, and feel no one is good enough for their son, but don't mind who marry their daughters, they are being "taken care of", and I also think its some stupid form of jealousy as warped as that sounds....I have a mother in law of 27yrs. She was a beoch to me then, and still the manipulating wanna be control freak, who I have nothing to do with. Kissed her behind for years, then when she tried to pull some crap, put her right in her place. I did not marry my husbands family, married INTO it, not TO, so there is no law I have to be around anyone who is not good for my physical, mental or emotional well being....Some are "draining" people, love chaos, gossip, and are just not fun to be around. I can't stand the gossipy crap, at home, work, wherever....And the games people like to play, they set up the rules, in their favor, and I refuse to participate. Life is way too short for that crap....Some daughter in laws are just like what I wrote above. They are the trouble makers.....Just very immature people which ever they are.....

Answer 2

You're going to hate this but the fault lies in you! You are to cling to the wife not Mommy! If you can't grow up, then get a divorce. The wife comes first over all family! If the two don't get along then stay away from the family until they do! This will be a chore!!! My parents had to learn like they were spoiled children. I was strict with them! That's where you should have been. Now you need to repair your relationship with your wife. Yes there is problems there! If your wife thinks that you blame her in any way for the problems with your family then you are on the fast track to divorce!

Answer 3

I don't personally have that problem (thankfully, my bf's mom is awesome) but my mom definitely does. My dads mom just never accepted or liked my mom. From what I've seen from her, as well as other family members and friends with this problem, it does usually starts with the mom (which most men don't want to admit). For some reason or another their sons girlfriend/wife just isn't good enough, respectful enough, pretty enough ect. After that, the girlfriend/wife just gets defensive and it just gets worse and worse from there. Men don't want to admit it might be their moms fault, definitely don't want to blame the wife/girlfriend when they have to deal with them everyday, so they just ignore and avoid it, instead of trying to resolve it. The wife/girlfriend and mom are generally so busy blaming each other to really try to work things out, even though both like to believe that 'they've tried'. It's a power struggle, and both want to believe that they are the 'right' one.

P.S. In the case of my mom, even I can admit that my grandma's a B%$&# to her.

Answer 4

Not all do. To categorize you must say why do those who don't get along undermine and sneer at each other.

Answer 5

She married because she wanted you, not your mother. So, it is always possible for the two to never get along. It's bad chemistry, and unfortunately, it happens from time to time.

Answer 6

Thats just how it is, mother in laws are protective of their sons . Most mother in laws are very controlling and want to still control the sons after they are married. My mother in law is very wicked!! Your wife is your wife now, please put her first.

Answer 7

My mom and my grand mother are not like that.

Answer 8

i'm sure that it does not happen im my case !!! Not all of them are like that. Some choose to live seperated so that this does not happen.

Answer 9

I agree with quick_san. 100%.