I am a 29 year old virgin. Should I get plastic surgery or a mail order bride?

Question

Reasons why I'm still a virgin:

1.Every single woman on this planet thinks I am ugly.
2.Women only date men that look like Johnny Depp.
3.I am too shy to approach women.
4.I am afraid of getting rejected.

So I only have two opinions: Getting plastic surgery so I can look like a GQ model, or getting a mail order bride.

Also, I am not comfortable with approaching women because it is not fair that women don't get rejected. Why is it that only men put their self-esteem on the line to approach girls, I don't understand.

Also, I've had bad esperiences with girls. I live in Los Angeles. I was at a bar where some girl told me I was too ugly to talk to her. All I did was say hello, that was it. I was so humiliated taht I coundn't leave my apartment for 4 straight months. That is how depressed I was.

Well anyway, my goal is to lose my virginity as quickly as possible, but I refuse to risk rejection. What should I do? What type of plastic surgery should I get?

Answer 1

that woman that said you were too ugly was probably a total plastic and you deserve better!!!! dont worry the perfect woman will come along and yes women do get rejected - well teenage girls do at least as i know from experience so just get yourself out there and don't let anyone get you down!! GOOD LUCK :)

Answer 2

Just relax. It will come. In the meantime you need to work on you. Is your job going well, are you healthy mentally and spiritually. The first thing you need to do is build some self esteem. And the second thing is throw away all the porn tapes. The reason women don't want you is because you don't have anything they want. Step 1 Take a long hard look in the mirror and fix the things that you need to fix. Go into a nice clothing store and find a manequin that you like and buy everything on the manequin. You may not look like Johnny but you can dress, and smell like him. Then go get a $30 haircut. Then go get the nicest cologne you can afford. Step 2 Join a gym. And go. Don't just leer at the women. Get someone to work up a workout routine for you that you can do everyday. As your chest gets bigger, THEY WILL COME. Make some appointments, go see a dentist for a cleanning, a doctor for a checkup, and a dermatologist to clear up your skin. Step 3 Move out of your momma's house. Get a job that pays real money. Have a career plan. Work on your credit. Where do you want to be in 5 years, in 10 years, in 15 years. The last part of this equasion is get use to rejection. Lower your standards a bit and just ask. Rejection does not hurt. It is only temporary and besides most women who reject you are more than likely doing you a favor. Ask women out all the time. So what if she says no at least she said something. Ask all women you think would give you the time of day. Make it a habit. A closed mouth don't get fed. And there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, just be the best you that you can be. I am sure that you dont want kids from a woman who cares nothing about you, or HIV, or even worse.

Answer 3

Try the personal ads in your area. I am sure you can find someone to date. However, no woman wants to be thought of as merely an object to a guy's goal of losing his virginity (or as a one night stand).. why don't you take it one step at a time ...answer a personal ad in your area, meet the person in a public place and go from there...dinner, a movie, the state fair, an expo, a rock concert , a skating show, skating, skiing,shopping together, etc.

Bars are places where drinkers meet. If that is what you are and the type of person that you want to meet...fine. Otherwise, try meeting people who don't frequent bars.

Plastic surgery will not solve all your insecurities and fears in life. Mail order brides may have their own agenda of becoming a citizen here any which way and you would both have cultural differences to overcome.

Go to a library and get a book or two on overcoming shyness.

Answer 4

I am a 27 year old virgin, so I am pretty much in the same situation as you.

Personally, I don't think plastic surgery is the best option, although I wouldn't say no to a free lipo session myself :-}.

You say that women only date guys who look like Johnny Depp. Thing is, all women have their own idea of who and what their "Johnny Depp" should be. Sometimes he doesn't look like Johnny Depp at all, sometimes he is sensitive, tough, funny or just a decent guy. Everyone has their Johnny Depp and you are definitely someone's Johnny Depp, you just have to keep looking until you find that someone.

By the way, that woman who spoke to you like that in the bar is possibly the meanest, nastiest person I have ever heard of. I wouldn't let that bother you. Think about it: she is probably like that all the time - that's revenge enough.

Answer 5

Neither of the two. What you need is confidence and self-esteem. If your having problems raising your self-esteem/confidence, seek professional help. You probably need a counselor or whatever. Also, your friends can help you raise your self-esteem, if you have any.

Since meeting new people/making friends involves confidence, get involved to various activities, that way you'll get to know new people. Also, throw away your GQ magazines, they DONT help you increase your confidence. The media these days does inform and educate us but it also corrupts our mind. This type of material gives you a different idea of the real world. The real world doesnt have all good-looking men and women, each has its own flaws and perfection. Lastly, even the UGLIEST man can marry a woman. I dont have to prove it. Just go outside your neighborhood and look for the UGLIEST guy who's married.

Answer 6

You have a third option. Take another look at yourself and try to concentrate on your good qualities. I don't think you're ugly and I have never dated any guy that looked like Johnny Depp. Maybe your attitude is what's holding you back. Women are attracted to men that have confidence and a healthy self esteem. I have no doubt you have alot to offer to a woman but if you don't see it how will they. You need to believe in the product you are trying to sell. Think more about building yourself up and less about losing your virginity and good things will happen. Promise.

Answer 7

You're really gonna cut yourself up because of a few shallow B%$#@'s? Ok, maybe that's a bit extreme... You're going to let a doctor cut you up over a few shallow B%$#@'s?

I'm not trying to say I have an issue with plastic surgery; If you're doing it for yourself. But if you're going to do it for women who don't deserve the time of day, then maybe you should invest in counseling instead. Something that will be good for you, to work on your self esteem, and maybe help you get past your shyness, and the feeling of perpetual rejection. There are good women out there, and you deserve a good woman, not just one who's with you for your looks. Don't worry so much about the virginity issue, that'll just lead you to settle with the first chick who comes along. If all you wanna do is lose your virginity, then go out there looking for a woman to sleep with, not marry. Just be up front about it. And if your looking for a woman to marry, go out and look for a woman to marry, and don't settle for the first chick to let you in her pants.

You sound like a nice guy. Just keep looking, and let the shallow insults roll off of you. Don't dwell on them, I can guarantee the person who insulted you isn't, they've already forgotten, so why give them power over you? You'll find someone eventually, and it'll be someone who's there for the right reasons.

Answer 8

Ignore that *****...people can be like that but don't let them get to you...I'm the same way like I get depressed when I see another person that likes my crush and I start thinking that they're prettier or that I'm ugly...I haven't been able to get out of bed because of that. I feel like it's consuming my life but you shouldn't get plastic surgery. You might need to start meeting new people and approach them...don't go to a bar go to a bookstore a Barnes and Noble people there are not drunk...when I've been there people are nice. It's easy to say to be yourself and the right one will come because it's harder said than done but I'm sure the one will come.



DON'T TRY TO MEET A GIRL AT A BAR!

Answer 9

hi!! In my opinion, you shouldn't take any plastic surgery, There must be a woman who will like u, also there wiil be a someone who likes the way u look so don't worry about the your look!!!
About your virginity dont worry abouut the rejection.Just be sure of yourself and go on!!!You are a man so don't be shy just go on go go go...and **** someone.Now you r too old so hurry to have a great sex & enjoy.Goood luck for your life.

Answer 10

It's not your looks. Read what you just wrote, and see if you would go out with you. No. You whine and hate yourself, a complete turn-off. Build your self-esteem!! You run into a nasty ***** at a bar... So what?? The world is full of nasty people..weed them out just like the rest of us! There are plenty of good ones too.