She has cancer, i'm really worried and shes virtually sh***ing herself. Her sate while at home has gotten worse, and whe have been in hte emergency department many times. What can i do to make her happy, and for me to calm down a litlle, i have never been in a hospital before (as i had homebirth) and have never been sick enough for hospital. What will hapen with her and will i be able to see her?
2007-02-02 21:24:35 · 6 answers · asked by Alex 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hi, I was a nurse in a childrens ward for many years. While it will seem frightening and daunting at first,you will both be treated well and as cancer patients you will become part of a "family" almost. You will have constandt contact with your daughter and will be able to be with her for most if nbot all procedures. It is a few years since I have nursed so procedures will have changed with technology but the nursing care is still the sam,I ca'nt imagine nurses are any less caring now thatn they were a few years back. If you would like to email me, I can answer some questions in more detail, but for now.I can tell you to tell the nurses when you firsdt get there that niether of you has been in hospital before.That way they will explain more fully exactly what is to happen. when I nursed,we always spoke to the child and told them step by step each procedure and why we were doing this and yes if it will hurt or not and how much so that thye can prepare themselves. Ask questions all the tiem,so you know what is happening and why. It's not going to be easy, there will be injections and blood tests,some of them repeatedly. You will be asked medical questions,sometimes the same ones by different people.Your daughter will have her own bed and sapce.she can bring toys and favourite things. there may be a visitor free period where the children rest during the day and that is the only time that parents are asked to leave. You will be able to stay with her at all tiems,a nd mosot wards let you stay there in a cot next to the bed or have special room set up.If this is not available, there will be a unit attatched to the hospital or ronald macdonald house.If you need to travels ome distance or money is short ,there is a social worker attatched to the hospital,usually and meal vouchers, accomadation help or taxi money can be found. your local"lions" or "rotary" club will also support her if you let them know about her. I too have added you and your daughter to my prayers. One more thing, yu need to be strong for your daughter,if you seem terrified, then she will be too.If you are calm and give her explanations and be there for her as she goes through this she will be much calmer herself.
2007-02-02 22:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by BeeMay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing I want to say is my prayers and everyone I know will be praying for you and her too. And 2nd is that now a days hospitals will let parents stay with the child and even provide a recliner or even a bed to stay right next to her and help with her care through the nite. You didn't mention your daughter's father and if he is willing to stay with her so you can alternate staying beside her. If he isn't around or willing ,do you have a mother or best friend to help you as you will need to go home and get some rest every so often or you will become so tired your mind won't be able to focus. I know,cause this has happened in my family both with cousins' who needed someone around the clock and then both my mother and father also had to have someone there and me and my sisters rotatedstaying with my parents. Years ago, I had 2 cousins going through what your daughter is having done(early 60's) and my aunt had to stay with them as my uncle wouldn't / couldn't . So you need some help and any relative or friend who can relieve you on this vigil is what you need or you will be in the hospital too from exhaustion.
2016-05-23 22:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be able to see her, you can spend all day with her...
Your fear comes from not knowing what will happen, so you need to call your doctor and ask him/her your questions. You will find the strength to do this, and you will calm down as time moves on.
You will probably find other parents in the same position at the hospital, so there's a chance to meet people who are going through the same nightmare as you, so there's a chance to get your questions answered too!
I'm so sorry that your daughter is ill- I'll say a prayer for her :)
2007-02-02 21:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear your child has cancer. You will be able to see your daughter in the hospital. You should talk to your doctor about the things you should do to make her happy and to help you get through this hard time in your life. May God be with your family during this time. I will pray for you and your family.
2007-02-02 21:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by MB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so so sorry for you and your family. I think that you have to calm down and be strong for her. try not to breakdown in front of her as it will make her scared. Talk to her and tell her that she has to be brave but it's ok to be scared and that you will always be there for her. I think it's important to be hones to kids about what's gonna happen. My brother has Spina Bifida and has had many many surguries thru out his life. We have always been up front and honest about what's going on and what to expect about test, scans., operations and etc. he always felt more comfortable because he knew what to expect. You'd be surprised how kids can be strong. Sometimes it will be heart wrenching when you have to watch things like Iv's and shots and her being just plain sick but you have to be strong. It will help her endure the pain and sickness much better. I know that God is with you and your family and i will keep you in my prayers. Good Luck!
2007-02-03 02:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sat here and said a prayer for you and your daughter.
2007-02-02 21:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋