I need your opinion
We in loved for 2 years a we discuss to marry we both from different nationality we live in same country he told me his family want him to marry from his country he told them he will not accept there opinion he want to have the remaining life to be with me i told him to talk with his family again and again he promised me to d that I am really waiting the result
Suddenly I found on his mobile women telephone number and I know the girl I asked him to be honest with me why he called for the girl but he is not honest with me he answer me if I call what is the problem, she is working with him I feel they start relation I tried to talk the girl but she said no relation I don’t trust her just want you to give me your opinion I feel this man he is not honest with me he is wasting my time or he want to keep a distance or may be he is not serious about me and I told him if your family don’t need you to marry me forget about me he told me he will come to marry me with out his family but I give him time to contact his family but i don’t understand why he is doing with me we fight a lot because of this reason and at the moment there is no any connection between me and him no phone call please I need you to give me a good advise, this problem it happen for second time should I keep distance from him really I cannot truest him I feel he is cheating me plesssssssss I need your help may be this all reason to be far from me ?
2007-02-02 21:19:47 · 8 answers · asked by noona 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have two tips:
1. next time, use a title that actually describes your question.
2. Learn to write. Your question has no paragraphs or new sentences or whatever. After the first three lines I got tired reading your gibberish and just stopped reading to post this.
This may be harsh but I'm really trying to help you here. If you repost your question in English you might actually get proper responses, but right now you come across as "I'm too lazy to write proper and you guys are just going to have to deal with it" which is very rude towards the rest of the people here.
2007-02-02 21:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by hoohoonick 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry, but your one line question which ran into a paragraph (without a break), tells me that you are not in love with him. The very basic necessity of the relationship, trust, is missing. A lot of missing details too, like, how old are you ? How old is this guy ? Is he educated, and has a good job to look after you ? Or is he atleast qualified, to do anything to come out of his family and start a family with you ? I assume he has a job, since you have mentioned a ''colleague'' here. What is taking him so long to really make a decision ? You saw this woman's number, but you did not see any messages, or anything that is beyond the line did you ? Did you check how long he has talked to this woman ? Either way, she is his colleague, there is nothing wrong in a colleague (male or female) calling him, unless you have some better explanation to not trust him and there is another side of this story.
Constant quarrelling is also another sign (not always, though) that you both have a lot of difference of opinions, which again weakens the relationship.
But then, for all you know, your intuitions may be right, and I think you should either end it once and for all or make a firm decision. Both of this depends on you and this guy. If he is just playing around, I think you should move on.
On the whole, it just doesnt sound right. I suggest you be silent, wait and watch what he is up to, see the approach, feel if this is all alright, give this guy a chance to really confirm he loves you, and then make a decision. Till then, keeping silent, and waiting would be the best option, or else bringing this topic over and over again (about his parents acceptance, and about this woman's phone call) would only have you going in circles. Stop, and wait. And then I am sure you'd know what to do.
good luck
2007-02-03 05:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your English is great. If you included periods and paragraphs, it would be a lot easier to read.
It sounds like he has moved on to another girl from his country. Possibly you could ask the girl, since you know her. If it's true, It is what his family wants. In some cultures that is important. In the USA, we find our own lifetime partner. It's nice if the family approves, but that doesn't always happen. It may be time to move on to someone who is honest.
2007-02-03 05:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel he is cheating on you and you don't trust him so just leave him! You deserve much better and I really can't understand why you are trying to marry him althought you fight with each other and he is starting a realatinship with another girl?!
Do you REALLY love him?
2007-02-03 05:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Setareh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love him?
it doesnt sound like it. even though you say you want to marry him. why isnt he answering your questions? marrige is a very sacred thing, its beautiful and cannot be broken. dont marry him. set a private detective on him if you can. otherwise just ask him once more and tell him you dont care about the answer, you just want him to be honest and you will leave him if he doesnt answer..
i hope it works out for you
2007-02-03 05:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by praavita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh!! Do NOT marry. Him or anyone else. You need to grow. Live and experience new people, new things. Learn to believe in yourself. Know your worth!! And TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!
2007-02-03 05:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him give him more time
2007-02-03 05:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by dorica w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't deserve u
2007-02-03 05:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋