and ive asked my best friend to be one of my bridesmaids but when i was talking to her the other day about dresses and looking at some different ones after about 15 minutes she said "im bored of this now" How am i meant to accept the fact that my best friend is bored of planning my wedding, and should i even still have her as a brides maid, what do yous think.
2007-02-02 20:24:12 · 6 answers · asked by Calebs Mummy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ive been engaged for about 4 months and this is the first time she has let me talk dresses with her and it was only for 15 minutes, thats all the time i can get out of my best friend for the biggest day of my life
2007-02-02 20:37:48 · update #1
aside of maybe a possible miscommunication when she said she was bored. just tell her best friends don't treat such a special occasion so coldly like that. maybe shes soo comfortable around you shes just telling you whats on her mind. 2nd of all being best friends means correcting eachother and working things out by communicating more when neccessary. just tell her how hurt you are, and give her a way out and give her the option of not planning your wedding. there could've have been a million reasons she could've said that, but being understanding yet firm with her is the best way to resolve such an issue. For me i've had a best friend for over 10 years. we've been through a lot but haven't argued more than my hand and count, due to our constant efforts to always talk to eachother and overlook certain comments that we might regret later. hope this helps. =)
My guess is that she is having a hard time dealing with the fact that your getting married. shes either envious, grieved, or mad that you're getting married. rather than asking us why your friend is being like this. won't you ask her yourself?
2007-02-02 20:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She certainly wouldn't be as excited about your getting married as you are and picking out dresses IS boring. Maybe you should just let her do her own thing and you take care of your business. I'd think your mother would be more of an appropriate person to share this planning with if she's still around. Keep your best friend as your bridesmaid. You're thinking of punishing her for being honest! Friendships can last a lifetime but marriages fail a whole lot more. Wouldn't you want her with you if things go wrong?
2007-02-02 20:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's up to you... I hate to tell you this, but planning a wedding IS boring... I couldn't even bring myself to plan my own, it was totally informal. Perhaps you can ask her if she is interested in being a bridesmaid, and let her know that you would understand if she didn't want to do that - give her a way out. She may have accepted because she didn't want to hurt your feelings or jeopardize your friendship. Just have a chat with her, and accept her answer, whatever it may be.
2007-02-02 20:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 20:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by vernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it too personally, some people just don't like shopping for clothes. Clothes shopping bores the crap out of me too, I generally just want to go in, take a quick look around, grab something I like, try it on if I'm not sure if it'll fit, buy it, and get the hell out of there. Try thinking of something she's interested in, and include her in those activities. Or if you really aren't sure if she wants to be your bridesmaid, ask her point blank, and let her off the hook with no hard feelings if she doesn't.
2007-02-02 20:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by Nev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU PICK OUT THE DRESSES AND GO FROM THERE.
2007-02-03 01:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋