me and my best friends have been bestfriends for 2 years and i am afraid that if i tell her i like her she'll stop talking to me!!!help!
2007-02-02 20:22:17 · 24 answers · asked by amanda l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let her know what exactly u feel, if she stops talking to u only becuz of that that,she was never a good/best friend of urs, so, go ahead and tell her that u like her.
2007-02-02 20:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The greatest bi or gay people tend not to impose their sexual preferences on their friends. I have never asked a friend whether he or she is straight or bi or gay. That does not matter as real friendships are above such issues.
If however you find yourself having sexual fantasies about your straight friend just be yourself and wait for the right moments to subtly test the water. Make no bold moves which can result in rejection, disappointment or embarrassment.
If she shows no interest in a relationship other than pure friendship, don't spoil a good thing.
2007-02-02 20:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Naut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her you like her straight off the bat. During some girl talk ask her if she has ever thought about being with a girl, see what her reaction is before saying anything. Some people are repulsed by the idea of homosexuality (hopefully not her) and if you want to maintain your friendship than you should test where she stands first.
2007-02-02 20:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Brandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell her it will eat you up inside. Also she will proberly work it out anyway so best to be honest with her.
If you leave it too long and get rejected you will resent her which is not fair on her.
If she is interested then all the best to you, if not then at least you got it off your chest and can continue the friendship!
2007-02-02 20:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. You have the potential to ruin a very good friendship.
You CAN, however, start asking her if she'd like to check out alternate lifestyle bars and try to gauge her reactions to her surroundings. If you think she might be open to it then you *might* be able to bring it up.
Just ask yourself which is more valuable to you, her friendship or the chance at something more? Sometimes you can only have one...
2007-02-02 21:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by john_f_preston 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that we don't get everything (or everyone) we want in life, whether we are gay, straight or bi.
If you know that your best friend is definitely not interested in a same-sex relationship, then keep your mouth shut about your feelings for her. Appreciate her for the friend she is and leave it at that.
2007-02-02 20:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she definatly wont stop talking to you if your over 16 does she know your bi?
i dont think you'll be able to just talk to her about it that would be very awkward
i think the best way would be subtlety if she copies what you do she likes you
you should try to go clothes shoping get her to try something on and see how she poses to you
2007-02-02 20:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Tom O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not make a move on this girl .but tell her that your bi. and see what happens .your friends need to love you because of who you are .not because of what you do. if she/s a real friend she will stand by you no matter what .give her the dissussion to make this choice .and let us know what happens.good luck
2007-02-02 21:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be b/c if she was curious.........she woulda let u know already. A person's sexuality is not a rapidly changing thing, u like what u like and no conversation is gonna change ur preference.
2007-02-02 20:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by BeautifuLL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her - just be happy to have her as your bestfriend - if you tell her you could find yourself without her friendship...
2007-02-02 20:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by HPS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋