What is there to fight for in life?

Question

Ive never known what 2 fight 4 in life. I always wanted my dad more involved in my life, I used 2 take every chance I got 2 spend time with him. After years of fighting 2 be with him, he still was never there. No matter if I cam down to his place he was always working, or spending the day in his truck with him on his phone, & being only a client. Spending time with him consisted on me sitting in his truck for an hr or 2 while he worked, or being dropped off at a store only to be there 4 half an hr, but spending 2 or more hrs, once going to a restaurant he left to be in a confrince call leaving me alone to eat dinner on our what was supposed to be father & daughter day. He has always had excuses, & boughten our love, for he never took the time to spend time with us, & have the get the real love for a father for being one & spending the rare time he had with me, & getting 2 know me better rather then putting me aside & doing work not needed.

Answer 1

try and show him lifes too short and if he cares he will make the effort

Answer 2

I'm fourteen and know exactly how you feel until a 5 minute phone call last night i hadn't heard from him in 3 months even though he lives just on the other side of the city!!! And it is hard but you've still got plenty to fight for- all the people who love you already and all the people who love you but just don't know it yet-don't give up on life or your father i'm quite hypocritical in saying this because i wouldn't be able to do what i'm suggesting but you should try talking to him face to face or you should write a letter good luck and i hope you feel better soon but sometimes if a person makes you feel this bad its not worth the heartache but don't give up till you've tried absolutely everything!!!
Hope I helped
<3

Answer 3

Don't fight for anything! It's exhausting. Be happy. Whatever it takes for you to be happy then do it. If your relationship with your dad isn't the best, discuss it with him in detail and tell him what it is you need. If he isn't willing to work at it, know in your heart that you were strong and did what you had to do and find another person to love and be cherished by. Nobody else can be your dad but you can find acceptance and warmth with someone else. Throughout our lives, we have expectations, and many are understandable, but when we don't see them happening, we get down on ourselves and everyone else. Things will never be just the way we want them. You have to learn to roll with the punches. Hurtful, yes, of course. Necessary to carry on, absolutely! You be the best that you can be and if your dad doesn't have or make the time to spend with you, find somebody else that will. Don't miss out completely! Be strong and happy! Only YOU can make sure that happens!

Answer 4

I work to be able to provide a good life for my daughter, it is costing me to be away from her for months at a time and then see her for maybe a week or so. I love her more than anything.

I have been unemployed with good qualifications and experience for about 2 years and the feeling of inadequacy when you can not give her the same as her friends have is the worst feeling. Living in back rooms and working for food, I had the closest relationship with her but it was the worst period in my life.

Now that I have work again I will do anything to keep it and be able to provide and try to build a future for her, although I can feel it's costing me my relationship with her.

Get it ?

Answer 5

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. He sounds like an absent-t dad. Just because he's not around doesn't mean that he loves you any less. In the long run what you've been through will make you a more compassionate person. You need to find something, an outlet. Poetry artwork, soccer, dance lessons you get the pic.

Answer 6

There are two things you should fight for in life and thats your health and wellbeing. Your health and wellbeing is the most important thing in your life. As long as you have got good mental and physical health and your wellbeing is in good shape then thats all that matters. Your father is an important part of your life as well because you have a strong connection with him. Try and talk to your dad about it. Perhaps he doesn't realise the problem that you have. Your father should understand the special bond you have with him and will realise the importance of spending time with you.

Answer 7

You obviously feel neglected and you sound a bit down.This won't change so long as your'e emotionally overdependant on other people with regards to you feeling happy, wanted or fulfilled ;even if those other people are parents, partners or friends.
Your'e on a journey like the rest of us.What is there to fight for you ask? To realise the potential within you, become the person you could be and should be, and that comes from within.Rely on yourself a little more-,tap into your inner strength and your inner wisdom-it is there, learn to develop it Joe

Answer 8

Listen darling, he's doing what he thinks is what you want. He has no idea what he is really doing. He thinks that if you are with him he is doing the right thing.
He's a man after all (not sure how old you are - so that could be unfair).
He's at least trying, even though he has no idea what he's doing wrong. Give him a go, help him, talk to him and fill him in on the details otherwise he will never know!
Good luck.

Answer 9

"Dad. What do I have to do to get to spend more time with you or get your attention. Do I have to become a customer / client of yours?"

Try that as a base line on which to build.

You can write it in a letter to him or a fax / text message / email ...each and or All, if you've a mind to.

I've known people who have been in your position and in the end, have got nowhere ~ for which you have to prepare yourself. Some of us seem to be incapable of building and having intimate relationships with our parents and / or children.

I wish you well with this.
Sash.

Answer 10

I wish you were my daughter. I have to beg my daughter to spend any time with me. Your dad is making a huge mistake by not being there for you.

Answer 11

Some parents only realize the need for you when they are the ones in need later in life.