I'm 17, Christian, single and trying to get it right. Is there anything I can do that won't be considered a sin when I get hot & heavy? Is there something I can do to make the feeling stop? I don't wanna sin or have sinful thoughts, but what can I do?
2007-02-02 19:56:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
2 Tim 2:22 Flee from youthful lusts, but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. This scripture advises you to take all steps possible to avoid youthful lusts by not doing the things that will cause you to be hot and heavy in the first place and also to associate yourself in righteousness,faith, love, peace with those who walk closely with the Lord Jesus Christ.
The Bible also says that if you walk in the Spirit you shall not fulfil the lusts of the flesh (Gal 5:16).
You should seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness (Matt 6:33), Seeking God's kingdom is seeking the righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit (Rom 14:17)
Phil 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things. Follow the advice of this scripture
Keep your eyes on Jesus, worship Him, learn more of Him in the word of God. As you keep your eyes on Jesus all unworthy thoughts and desires will fade away from you.
I hope that your need has been met. God bless you.
2007-02-02 20:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by seekfind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise. Meditate on God's Word while shooting some hoops, riding a bike, roller-blading, whatever is interesting and join friends in wholesome activities. Stop dwelling on lustful thoughts or looking at anything promoting sexuality. Bring your thoughts under captivity (control). Crucify the flesh. That comes from prayer and Bible reading and hiding God's word in your heart. The spirit is willing when your flesh is weak to help your infirmities (weaknesses).
Maybe lay off of so much meat. There's a lot of female hormones in our meat supply. You might consider taking some supplements to balance the hormones more equally and of course don't get in rush but if you find your soul mate, it's better to marry than burn. Be patient and prove to God you can be self disciplined as a single person so He can trust you as a married woman to be faithful and to use temperance (self control). Elisabeth Elliott has some great writings on this topic. Save yourself for marriage and be spiritual minded not carnal minded.
I hope this is sincere and not a baited question to encourage others to begin practicing self sex and the selfish attitudes accompanying that instant gratification illusion. This opens the door to other sexual sins and should be avoided. Be a clean living girl while you are young. Enough time to be a wife and mom later if the Lord tarries. God has called us to be holy.
2007-02-02 20:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having sinnful thoughts is OK so long as you do not commit a sin. There are so many things that can help you through such difficult time:
* remember why you are holding yourself back from sinning; for the love of God, so it is worth it
* find friends your age who think the same so that you encourage each other
* play sports and do physical activities
* water puts out fire; so take a shower when you feel hot
* focus your attention on something else; divert your attention
* if you absolutely have to do something, then accept musterbation every now and then and forgive yourself
* pray for strength from Allah
* don't go to bed unless you are really sleepy
* stay away from whatever moves and provokes you
This is out of my experience as a 33 year old single muslim girl.
One very imortant thing to remember, you are different than most of the people around you but you are riht. Don't let go of your way of thinking. You may seem odd to people but who cares about them anyway? You care about God more than anyone else; that is why you are thinking this way.
Peace
2007-02-02 20:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by daliaadel 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Holding on to the thought that u may or have committed sin is the greatest sin. Holding on to Sin in mind hamper spiritual progress of person. Nothing is sin as long as u do not hold on to it.
2007-02-02 20:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by dd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 36 yr old divorced mother of 4, and I'm in the same boat. our body's war against our souls, its so hard. at 18 I wanted to be married so I wouldn't "sin" and it was the biggest mistake of my life. pray, ask God to bring someone into your life that you can talk to extensively about this, some one to call you on your cell phone to give you an excuse to leave when things get to hot. set boundary's for yourself and your partner and stick to them, God is a forgiving wonderful God, if he forgave Paul., he will forgive us, so don't be too hard on yourself, but try not to put yourself into a situation that can get out of control, there are many reasons to stay abstinent these days, good luck to you and God bless you and keep you safe, I'll say a prayer for you.
2007-02-02 20:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by oliver14592004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard question. Scripture tells us 'it is better to marry than to burn' so it's fairly obvious you will be better getting married before you do something you regret. The rub will be in not putting the cart before the horse and trying to just grab the first guy that will take you because you want to have sex.
The Bible does not say that masturbation is a sin specifically. Is it possible to relieve yourself without sinning? Very hard to say. Just thought I'd throw that out there from one Christian to another.
(As an aside, one joke goes like this: "What is the cure to a woman's libido?" "What?" "Wedding cake!")
2007-02-02 20:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by solidwhetstone 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't you DARE ever think that it's ok to sin because you can be forgiven, you will fail utterly in your walk with God. The best thing that you can do now is pray and go to a church and talk to some of the leaders there to help you and tell you what is considered right and wrong. I wont post them here because if I am wrong or type it badly then I could lead you in the wrong direction. Hope that helps. -D
2007-02-02 20:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Donnie 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I do not see dateing as a sin huging or kissing and holding hands is fine for christians. strand for muslims this is not alowed in public even if you are married. the problem is to not let it go to far so dont be alone with a man you fancy and if he starts being pushy get away.
2007-02-02 20:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I guess it depends on which church you belong too. Boil it down to "if it feels good, don't do it". I think the whole idea is silly but that is me and not you. I gave up trying not to sin years ago and my nerves are fine.
2007-02-02 20:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just pray that God will open your eyes for the right and wrong.
Follow your heart, and when you feel that you're afraid of doing something, don't do it coz it will be God talking to you to tell you this is wrong.
Follow good friends
You're a smart teenager.
Stay like that
2007-02-02 20:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Zsazsa A 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋