I have a crush on a girl in one of my classes. I have no idea if she is single or even if she is interested. For Valentine's Day, I was thinking of sending her flowers with a secret admirer note attached, letting her know that it was a classmate. Is this a good/bad move? If not, how else should I handle this? What exactly should I say on the note?
2007-02-02 18:59:09 · 11 answers · asked by DexterDog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Send the bunch open and tell open you love her
2007-02-02 22:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a crush on someone should be treated as a psychological condition which is what it is. Every time you see her or think about her, certain chemicals are released in your brain that give you high and you feel good.
Generally this situation passes after a few months because our bodies can not cope with such a high forever. It can leave linering emotional issues if you do not get to meet her. If you are able to tell her then either it withers away or truns into attachment which is what love is.
I have a few rules to follow :
1) Communicate to her that you like her. It will help your emotional state if nothing else. You can send her a note but leave enough ints so that she knows it is you. You dont want her to hook up with someone else. You can join classes and activities that she hasso that you can be nearer with more chances to talk. You can befriend her girl friends and tell one of them so that she can tell her. You can stare at her and give her a smile when she catches you.
2) DO NOT and I mean DO NOT benefit from her sexually in any way. This is only way to let the infatuation face remain high ad not a depression.
3) Enjoy the emotional high you are getting. Write some poetry, some love letters, paint. This high is a rare experience and does not last forever. Express yourself, be creative.
4) Serve her. Yes, I mean do things for her that she needs without asking for any thing in return. No matter how un-social it may seem, bear her atrocities towards you with a smile. Treat her like a Goddess. This is a sure way of melting a girl's emotions. Since you have a crush on her and you are not sexually going to exploit her, she cn't help but see your sincerity.
2007-02-02 19:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by tony01p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send her one single flower on Monday with a note that says From Your Secret Admirer.
Then on Tuesday send her a little box of chocolates with a note that says From Your Secret Admirer.
Then on Wednesday send her a little stuffed animal with a note that says From Your Secret Admirer.
Then on Thursday, leave her a note in her locker telling her that her Secret Admirer will be waiting for her in the gym (or wherever) after school (or during lunch), and if she wants to know who it is, then she will come and find out.
This is when you will find out if she is single or not, because you will ask her out to a movie for Friday night.
If you go on this date and it is a nice date and you both enjoyed it, then you can ask her to be your Valentine.
If you find out that she has a boyfriend, then I am sorry and you have just wasted all those romantic notions on her. Better luck next time, sweety. *hugs*
2007-02-02 19:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember it's a crush so if you get hurt, you already knew it for what it was. By the way it's a bad move to give anything to someone you know nothing about. I received flowers on my car at times and it gave me the creeps because I had no idea who they were from. Why don't you get to know her first. Looks aren't everything you know. She could be a person you might end up not liking.
2007-02-02 19:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for that reason i might have taken the bag of bitter coffee beans decrease back to the keep and asked for a replace. If the region isn't that actual solved, I distract myself with an interest I delight in.
2016-12-13 07:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by motato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have high hopes and don't expect anything.You might get a cold shoulder.No flowers pal, it's a waste of money.Do some research first.
2007-02-02 19:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by greβ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very Carefully.
2007-02-02 19:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by thephalkinparadox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most girls like a more direct approach. If you are a nice guy they will piss on you and take you shopping. Be firm , confident and ask her on a date. Act like you are the man and don't be a puss. Before she has time to answer pretend to get a call on your cell phone and tell her to wait. She will be putty. Remember don't be the nice guy.
2007-02-02 19:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by sadguy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
idk it could have two reactions.
1) she'll be pleasantly surprised, and try to figure out who sent the flowers and such.
2) she'll be freaked out. she'll feel like there's someone in her class watching her every day and the fact that she doesn't know who, might scare her.
I say just give her flowers straight out
2007-02-02 19:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by briank1458 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be carful u don't want to scare her
2016-03-08 08:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋