i lost my mom 5 years ago.Thereafter i have started loving maths,computers,ipod and the rest of the remaining machines.. Because i stopped believing people,as they used to see me as if i have lost something very very precious (even i agree that).. But i want to prove that i can be a star.. i thought no one is watching me,from the day i transfered my place.. I started hating myself.. I have hidden talents.. When someone tells me,i can do it.. i just do that..(for eg.i dont have stage fear,but if a gal tells me that she has stage fear,even i hesitate to go and talk for seminars..am doing my mba.. teachers think that am bright student but i dont think so..Unless someone motivates me,i dont do anything)But these days,am feeling someone is watching me.. And i am put under tremendous stress situation,and now real lucky is coming out.. a frightened lucky.Am failing in stress interviews.Whom am i??I cant see my sis and dad frightened coz of me..I dont want my dad to remarry at this age.pl help
2007-02-02 18:32:43 · 12 answers · asked by lucky21 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Go to church...
Identify what you want to do with your life,and take the first step.
If we know there will be good and bad times during the walk of life, then we should run through the bad times.
2007-02-02 18:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by melomego 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Apparently, you are a highly intelligent person, with serious trust issues, and tons of stress.
You need to put your anger, and feelings of abandonment behind you. One of the issues you seem to be having, has to do with anger and guilt. Whether or not you realize it, part of you is angry with your Mom for dying on you. If you keep it internalized, and refuse to admit others in your life, you will never get over it. Someone in your life, will be there for you to talk to, maybe your Dad is the one, don't forget, he lost his wife.
You can't do it all at once, take baby steps. Start with someone to talk to. But a house plant (no I'm serious) and take care of it for a while.
You must come out from under some of the stress. Give up a class, or go to a gym. Get rid of all the junk in your diet. Do something different- I dare you ;)
I know what I'm talking about, I lost my wife and daughter. If you don't shape up now, you will be in for an unhappy life. Only you can do it, and you can do it. Start now.
2007-02-02 19:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Gordon M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just focus on your career goals. Stay clear of alcohol and drugs, if you think they will help you, trust me, they will not. Keep converstaion light with people and just be friendly. Have good morals and be kind. You'll do fine. Stop freaking out. If your dad wants to marry, try viewing things from his point of view. It's not easy raising children on your own. Try not to be selfish, even though you have suffered a great deal in the recent years. Personally, I would not turn to the church. I would spend a lot of time outdoors, keeping active and productive. Eating healthy and get EXCERCISE!!!! Excercise will amke any person feel good about themself. Put on your iPod and jog a little further each day than the day before.
2007-02-02 18:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by teddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well losing you mother was a hard thing, but you know that life has to go on and your mother would not want you to give up everything. She would want to see you do your best, and to do what you can do . So you need to go to see a therapist and decuss this, cause this is not a way to live your life. You really need to try and get back to the things that you were doing, and remember all of the good things about your mother. Remember her always in your heart, and know that she is looking down on you and wants you to go on with life. So please go and get some help, and get through this problem that you are having, cause you really need to do that. And please do it soon, so you can at least get back to some kind of a life while you are working on the problems your having, since your mother died. Please seek professional help, and do it soon. It has been a long time now, and you really need to go and get that help now.
2007-02-02 18:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church
See a therapist
Love yourself
Love your family whatever their faults
Don't worry about what anyone else thinks of you if you are trying to improve...listen to them and take what is good...but you have to live your own life.
You need to release all stress...what matters is being a good person....trying to love family with faults...staying healthy...and doing what would make you happy!
Make a list of what you need (not want) to be happy and make a business plan for being happy. You are going for MBA, what business plan is more important than the business of being happy. We can fail out of school, get fired from work, go to jail, have relationship problems, get cancer but worry is not too helpful concern is OK in moderation.
My uncle has cancer and is dying but he thanks God for every day...and with a smile. :)
2007-02-02 18:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ben Jammin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling. it sounds like you haven't confronted your mother's death. You won't get over her death ( my dad died over 20 years ago and i'm still not over it) but you can confront it and there by makeing you stronger. A simple thing to do (a shrink told me to do this shortly after my dad died) look in the mirror and pretend youre talking to your Mom then respond like you think your mother would. Ask questions like "are you proud of me? do you think i'm worth while?" and always end with I Love You and respond I love you too. You will cry, but you'll feel better after the first few times
2007-02-02 18:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you never went through the grieving process of losing your mom even if time passes feelings stand still find yourself a therapist whom can help you througj these feelins the longer that you "stuff" them down the worse you are going to feel just and observance from an outsider
2007-02-02 19:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by ourlittleposseof12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you stop believing people?
I think you need to start by opening your heart.. to your father. I'm sure you have friends as well.
You said you started "loving" - among other material things - computes, if you can't see your sister, why don't you email her? or call her. You really should open your mind and your heart to those who love you.
2007-02-02 18:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend, where came to earth bcoz of god, i have plan for each of us, seek god...u will find answer for everything.."the writer knows bout his book better"
2007-02-02 21:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by youthsense 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from depression(Mild) & it is creating illusions. Have faith in your self & take some anti depresant.
2007-02-02 18:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Arun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋