i had a dream the other night my step-daughter pinched my newborn i have had other dreams that she will be mean to my child i havent given birth yet this is my first could that be why im worried my step-daughter is going to hurt her sister she doesnt like me at all eather she is mean to me olny when her dad is gone he dont belive me when i tell him she said she wants me to moveout, and that she dont like me should i worry that she might hurt my baby or not?!?!?!?!?!
2007-02-02 18:22:19 · 4 answers · asked by krissykay85 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First red flag is that your husband isn't sitting down all together with you AND his daughter and letting his daughter know that you're there to stay and she better respect you. He's creating more problems by not getting involved. It's only going to get worse when the baby comes home. I'd listen to your dream. It's your subconscious telling you that something isn't right.
2007-02-02 19:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put any stress on yourself. Upsetting you could be harmful to the baby and lead to a miscarriage. You need to allow this step daughter to know that you're the boss when daddy isn't around. You also need to explain things to your husband. If he doesn't believe you then maybe you need to look into explaining things a little bit further. Don't allow your step daughter to treat you like this. It just means that she will walk all over you in the future because she knows you won't do anything about it. The dreams? That is just mind over matter and your hormones. Your hormones are all out of wack due to being pregnant and the dreams will probably increase. Please don't stress yourself. Talk to your husband and if he doesn't listen, put matters into your own hands and sit down and talk with your step daughter. Communication is everything. Join a yoga class or relax in a bubble bath. Good luck!
2007-02-03 02:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to believe his stepdaughter can be mean. Honestly, he will most likely have to see that side of her for himself to believe it. Have you tried talking to her about how she feels about being a big sister and what that means to her and how she thinks big sister's should act.
We gained custody of my stepdaughter one month before my son was born. She was a couple months shy of her 5th birthday. It was a struggle. She was very defiant and vindictive and it took a lot of time and patience and eventually therapy. There was a couple of episodes of her acting out on the baby and I had to watch like a hawk. I was afraid to let her go upstairs while he was napping because I wasn't sure what she might do.
It will be two years in April since she moved in with us. It's gotten so much better. I realized I had to change my approach and try to be more positive and more accepting of the fact that her mother just doesn't want to be bothered, (though I'd still like to slap her mom sometimes).
I feel for you and I can relate to your fears. I just wish you could feel as supported from your husband as I did. I don't know what I would have done w/o his support.
You need to try and get him to see your point of veiw, hopefully he will be receptive to your feelings.
2007-02-03 23:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just anxiety dream
2007-02-05 20:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋