A question for the parents, what if your child fails his/her exams?

Question

I'm 15. I'm in 10th grade this year and I'm taking science subject. I had my mid-terms in Dec last year. And yesterday I found out that I failed my Chemistry and Math. My other subjects weren't great either. I'm devastated, but I deserve it because I didn't study hard. I have no idea how to break it to my parents. I know where I went wrong and I am determined to get the best posssible marks this term. Could you guys please give me some advice?

BTW, by maths I don't mean the main subject. It's advanced maths, which i chose as an extra subject. So, basically I have the choice to drop it, but I'd like to give it one more shot. Oh, and I don't go to tuition. Do you suggest I do?

Answer 1

Don't worry so much about pleasing your parents, they love you and just want you to be well. I wasted a lot of energy being scared of what my parents would say if I got a B. They made a big fuss cause they thought it would motivate me and they just wanted me to do well. Just tell them, they will be upset, but only for your benefit.

Please yourself not your parents, you know you didn't study, so next time study harder. Learn from you past mistakes and make up for it in the future.

Answer 2

Though im not a parent but i could feel how parents would be disappointed to see their kids failing some subjects as i am sponsoring kids also (for their financial needs in school). The first two students i had sponsored were able to finish their studies/graduated, but just landed in marrying without a job. The second time (3 students), i feel a bit proud of them as they got their own job now, though its not their course they had graduated, but its ok as long as they earn something. Third time are two students & still studying now. I was informed that they didnt get good grades though they didnt fail too. But still i dont feel good upon hearing the results. So by the next school opening, im having another way in order for them to get good grades and would be successful in the future by giving them an average of 90%. If they cannot reach that point, then they could not avail my sponsorship anymore. & i think this is the only way the students would study hard for themselves.

Answer 3

I'm sincerely impressed by your brave open admissions of failing Chemistry and Math--and how you want to try succeeding in a course you can safely drop all together. By admitting and knowing where you went wrong to fail these courses of study is your positive first step. Gaining the sincere passion to succeed and pass these courses is your next big step. I wish you well and hope you earn success here.

I goofed off and failed English 3 in the 11th grade. After a briefly allowed period of "grieving", I got over it and quickly got very busy, focusing on and succeeding in passage of the course--learning far more character lessons in summer school that year.

Private vs. public school: If you and parents can take an unbiased clear look into the comparative educational quality of both, then go for it and judge for yourself what you feel which suits YOU.

When I was a high school student in the public school system, I could clearly see where the neighboring private school kids gained politically dynamic advantages--both on campus, continuing on over post-graduation years since. Part of such stark differences between the two school systems of the time rested with the quality of education offered; private schools college prepped students where public schools failed to do so for their kids.

I caught sheer hell in college to say the least and take great heart knowing today's public schools are on the fast track towards prepping students for college.

Answer 4

You fail an exam. You do what millions of people did. It's not the end of the world nor of your career nor the lives of your parents. So just tell them and get on with life. Don't be so hard on yourself the same as your parents might not even take it too hard. And it is your life. Listen to good advise but be in control of your own destiny. You are not a child anymore and I think you have done well to be in 10th grade at your age.

Answer 5

OK. As a parent my first reaction is to do my block at you. You know you can do it and you just didn't put the effort in. They will be disappointed, but if you are truly capable of getting the marks, are going to need these classes for future study/career, and are willing to PROVE that you will work hard, then that is all we can really hope for. You obviously believe you have the ability without tutoring so you just need to train your self to re prioritise your class work over your social life. It is hard, but do-able.

Answer 6

Take this to heart!!!! take your time NOW study hard !! I wish I could go back and have this advise I'm giving you now!! Really High School is Easy just apply yourself!!! I would love to go back and have a second chance!! I'm sure others would agree!! Please put aside the party,, friends,, it all don't matter later in life ,, what does is your education! Don't drop the courses if they think you can be in it ,, u should be! just prove it to yourself!! put aside ALL it's only about you right now !! do it why it's easy ,, or you can pay to retake these classes in college!! HOPE that helps Shawn!