To be more exact-- his best friend is a girl-- (but she is gay and I'm positive that they're not sleeping together, so that's not the problem). The thing is, he's been spending ALL his time around her lately. He spent 4 out of 5 evenings at her place the week before last, and then they took a roadtrip together last weekend, and when they got back on Sun, he wanted to spend the night, and I said "okay, in this case," because they had been driving 6 hrs and it was late. Mon-Thurs of this week he's been at her place and only come home in time to go bed-- I've had no time with him! Tonight, he calls me and says that they're at a party together and that he's just gonna crash at her place if they get back too late. I said, "NO! I'm not okay with that!" I'm afraid that if I give into this, that he's gonna start sleeping over there all the time-- basically living there, and I'm never gonna see him anymore! Is this so unreasonable?
2007-02-02 18:09:29 · 10 answers · asked by pandoras_beguiling_little_box 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good thing you finally said no to him. it seems she is his GF. they're more together than you are with him.
something is terribly wrong with you two. sit down with him and have a very good talk about it. then make a final decision. if he still insists on being with her the whole time, then probably it's time to find another who will give you more time than his friends.
2007-02-02 18:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are the one being unreasonable, I think he's the one with the problems. It sounds like hes spending alot of time away from you, is it a possibility that he is avoiding you for some reason? Guys tend not to be seen when the going gets tough in a relationship, maybe this is the problem???
I suggest confronting him with your feelings and tell him that you don't mind him seeing his best friend and having a good time, but would it be too much to ask if he could spend a little more time with you.
Good-luck
2007-02-03 02:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by bynni_c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong.
That whole situation seems funky to me... Honestly, that a woman is gay, doesn't mean that she can't sleep with a man just for fun... I bet that wouldn't be the 1st time that happens, nor the last... So just watch it...
As for your BF, he's not gay, so he still like girls, it could be that your BF has a crush on her or is in love with her... Who knows... All I'm saying, as most people here, that it doesn't seem right AT ALL.
2007-02-03 02:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right decision. If you guys really like eachother, you should be able to tell the other person if something is bothering you. Plus, he should be wanting to spend time with you, not with some other girl.
2007-02-03 02:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mochi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him gently that you want more time with him. Don't make it sound like you feel threatened, and make sure you allow him time to spend with her. If you've tried talking to him about this and explaining your feelings and he's still pulling away, I'd honestly try to let go. It's noth worth it if he takes you for granted.
2007-02-03 02:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Pixie_Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like it, then he should respect that. You try to respect him right? Well tell him you miss him lately and want him to spend some time with you.
2007-02-03 02:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy F1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not and i dont want to sound rude but u would be a fool if u stayed with him. ask him if u were doing the same thing would he be ok with it. im sure he would say hell no. to me it sounds like he has a relationship with her and not with u. dont put up with that mess. its obvious something is going on.
2007-02-03 02:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Dali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you were right telling him that u didnt want him staying at his friends house I let my boyfriend do that once and he ended up cheatin on me so I wouldnt let him thats just my opinion
2007-02-03 02:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by david15882002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. he has no right to do that, no matter what the situation. he should understand that its not right to do that, no matter who the person is. he should respect you. good luck =]
2007-02-03 02:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you are being reasonable. He is taking advantage of you.
2007-02-03 02:12:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋