I need help on dealing with this...?

Question

Well, it hasn't been going so well around the house and my parents are fighting all the time because my dad didn't pay taxes last year because he was gambling. Anyways, i've been getting in trouble a lot lately and i shoplifted a few times and i didn't know y i did it. I just don't want to be living this way because if one day things get bad enough, i might try cocaine and that will seriously ruin my life. I just really need help dealing with this.

and lots of people say i might get addicted because one of my "friends" deals drugs (refer to my next question)

Answer 1

just think about how much ur life will be messed up in the future. i can honestly say that cuz ive gotten in to a lot of sht my self like shoplifting, drugs it just makes things worse aite, so try to be positve and just cuz ur parents are fighting doesnt mean its the end of the world so don worry coo?

Answer 2

You need to know that your parents problems are not your fault.

Getting into trouble will only make it worse for you. Try to tell your mom how you feel. She is going through a lot right now and needs your love and support.

You can show her that love and support by doing your best to stay out of trouble.

Don't ruin your life by making bad choices. That won't help your parents and it definitely won't help you.

You will get through this. Concentrate on doing the right things, making good choices, and doing what ever it takes to make your life better.

Let your parents work it out. There are groups that can help you, and your mother, cope with your life. Ask your school councilor for help. See if your school has a list of programs for kids with trouble at home.

If you don't feel comfortable going to your school councilor, try a local church priest or pastor. Seek counseling even if your mother doesn't want to go for herself.

Do you have an Aunt or Uncle, maybe a grand parent you can turn to for help. Is there an adult in your life that you trust enough to talk things over.

Please, don't try to deal with this on your own. Cocaine is not the answer. It will only make things worse.

No matter how far you run from your problems, your problems will find you. The best way is to face them and defeat them.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think what you desperately need is external help. The fact that you are aware of what you are doing, that you've admitted to yourself you do have problems is extremely brave and that you should be commended for it. Now you need to take the next step. As you've already indentified, you need help to deal with your life at the moment and counselling would be the best for you. Going to a counsellor isn't something to be embarrassed about. If you're in school, most schools tend to have a counselling service that you can go to for free. If there is none, talk to your teachers about if there's some sort of government counselling service you can use. If there is nothing else, I'm positive there is some sort of helpline you can call, like lifeline or kids helpline. This will really help you get your life back on track. Remember, you don't have to face this alone. Everything you tell a counsellor is by law, confidental and they are not allowed to tell anyone else about your situation without your permission.

Answer 4

If you are stressed out enough that you have already considered the possibility of doing drugs, you need to talk to someone-FAST. Shoplifting usually has nothing to do with the money and more to do with a compulsion issue. Try talking to a school counselor or social worker or a teacher you feel comfortable with. If you don't feel comfortable with that, look in the front of our local phone book where the 800 #'s are- there shoulg be a hotline for a local "crisis center". You can call to just talk to someone or they can recommend someone else for you to go to in person (or both). You can't keep feeling this way and watching your parents argue. You need to get your feelings out before you do something destructive. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Yes good idea, because statistically cocaine makes things much better. Grow the hell up. Join a sports team or something productive. Go down to your local police department or sheriff's office, whatever ya got there, and inquire about the "ride along" program. It's a program that offers people the chance to go out on patrol with them. It is so much fun, the adrenaline high alone is reason enough to go.

Answer 6

First of all I am not an expert, but trying to put myself in your shoes, I Would say you shoplifted hoping you would get caught, so they would focus on you (so they see that all their fighting is hurting you, and making you feel insecure, which would be a normal feeling) and mabey quit fighting. Please dont try drugs! You dont want to mess up your life! Hang in there, try to find an adult you can trust, to talk to about your feelings.Please! I will pray for you.

Answer 7

If you don't have anyone to talk to in person, or if you aren't comfortable with talking to someone you know, you can probably find a crisis line or teen crisis line in your local phone book. They will be able to listen and talk with you, as well as refer you to some counseling services if you feel you would like that. Just be strong and try to keep focused on the right path.

Answer 8

Well,you're at high risk for addiction because of your dad's gambling,prob.why you shoplifted?idk,but you need to talk to someone you can trust.maybe someone out of your immediate fmly. like an aunt,uncle,etc.if you feel comfortable going to a clergyman that may be helpful,also.keep the faith,at least you're aware of the problem.GOOD LUCK!STAY CLEAN!