I am planning to marry my girlfriend. I am nearing 20, and she is almost 19. We are ready to be married and are engaged (much to my parents dismay, and her only caring family is her mother, which I am sure I have permission from.) Anyways I'm joining the airforce and they will be providing housing, medical, and other benefits for us. With all this would it be alright to have a child anytime? Or is it still too early for us?
2007-02-02 17:51:37 · 14 answers · asked by rezruf 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
only you can decide if your too young or not from what I'm reading you seem like a sensible man and you will make the right choice good luck x x
2007-02-02 20:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation time doesnt matter. As long as you know you are able to support yourselves and a child, the only question is are YOU ready? Having a baby is a big deal, and alot of responsiblity as you probably already know. Remember when u are considering the possibility of children u should also remember that kids dont stay babies forever and every new year will bring new challenges. Sit and talk with your girlfriend and make sure she is up to it and discuss what u plan on doing in the future and whether having a child would brighten or shatter ure plans.
2007-02-03 02:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by lazybum94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're joining the military, I would wait awhile. It would be difficult for your new wife to raise a baby on her own if you had to be deployed for an uncertain amount of time. And it would be so hard on you not to be there for their first step, their first word, etc.
You are both so young that you could complete your enlistment and she could maybe attend college, and you'd still be in your twenties. Then once you are better established, settle down somewhere to raise a family. You may have the means to have a baby right now, but if you rush into things too soon, you will only invite stress into your new marriage.
I hope this helps. I wish you lots of luck with everything.
2007-02-03 02:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun , that is a very good question , I had my first child at 17 and it was really rough .I f I were in your and your lady's shoes, I would wait 1 yr or 2 , get to know each other as man and wife ,have fun together just being the 2 of you and show your mom and dad that you made the right choice just by being happy. Then , my friend have all the happy healthy babies you and your gal want...lol. I hope everything works out for you both.The best of luck to you . Val
2007-02-03 02:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The perfect age to have children is when you can afford them, when you can have enough time to care for them (with one parent staying at home, preferably), and when you are emotionally and spiritually ready, which depends on your own terms. The early years are particularly critical to teach children how to be a great human being, so remember to keep this in mind.
Point is: You want to have the lowest amount of stress in your life to not be so disturbed by the amazing responsibility of raising a human being from birth to adulthood. So be as prepared as you can. Your baby will give you enough "trouble" surprises alone.
2007-02-03 02:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mario E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples learn a lot about each other the first few years of marriage. Enjoy your time together. Military life can be difficult on a marriage, so work together to establish a strong foundation before you add the stress of children. They're great, but are also demanding of your time and attention.
2007-02-03 02:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by I_Spy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are on your way to having a good place for a child, but I would take my time. There is going to be alot of changes happening in the next while for you, so I'd wait to adjust to all of those for the time being. You are young, so you'll have tons of time to have kids! I'd suggest waiting till you are moved and settled into you new life, job and roles with each other before you try to have a kid. You are going to be VERY busy and may need to adjust to all that first!
2007-02-03 05:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most marriages fall in the first 5 years.
If your not going be home much and she worried about you dying out there or anything like that then it maybe okay to have one right now but children are a lifetime job is all i can really say.
I mean I am 17 and engaged to a man who is 26 and we have been together almost 2 years now. I told him today that we need to think of names for the baby and buy stuff now to prepared for when we do have one not that we are having one right now or anything but I ever told him I want to get all the stuff for the wedding out of the way before we pick a date. I am a worry wart but anyways good luck.
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2007-02-03 02:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Yelsha!!! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dude , Wait till you have lived life a little longer enjoy each other and your career in the Air Force . A child will change everything I cannot tell you how much . There beautiful but it will be a change wait till your late 20's to decide and see where you at then ..
2007-02-03 02:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a couple of years, although you will have the benefits, you have not taken to account your education, or hers, go to school, get your degree while you are working. Let her get her career together, then, have children. Don't be in a rush, enjoy the time you have together, although children are wonderful, the first few years they are very demanding.
2007-02-03 01:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋