Do you spare the rod or spoil the child?

Answer 1

I neither use the rod,not spoil the child.I discipline the child with effective positive discipline methods - care, attention, love, understanding.I'm not the one who would hit another person,especially a child.I don't need to punish, yell, spank, criticize,etc.Anyway for low-confident people who would like to create low confident children - spanking works.

Answer 2

First of all, your question is redundant. I think you mean "Do you USE the rod, or spoil the child?"

I spoil him as long as he is respectful to the people around him and behaving age-appropriately. If he is acting out, I quickly decide if he is feeling neglected, trying to get 'negative attention' in which case the solution is a good hug, a 'love', and soft words of love and reaffirmed commitment as his loving mother. If he's in need of correction, I will sternly give him some verbal correction. If the behavior continues, a swat on the bum is fine with me followed by confinement and alone time for a bit, and finally a quick chat about his behavior, why mom spanked, reassurance that he is loved, and out to play again.

I don't think one has to spank in order to get results. All my dad had to do was give us a look and we quivered into jelly blobs. I am very casual with my son and do most of the raising so he's not as sure where the boundaries are as I was with my father.

Answer 3

Ignore the bad-Praise the good ( without spoiling the child with material things). Its working for my son he had premature terrible two's! but when I put this into practise he caught on that being a pain in the *** ain't gonna get him anywhere and he decided against it.......I refuse to harm a hair on my sons head after spending most of my child hood getting kickings for the slightest of reasons most of the time it was because I looked at my mother wrong!? If you choose to spank that's the choice you make but bear in mind if you did it to someone one the street you'd be done for assault! sometimes people use discipline as an excuse to take out their own frustrations on someone who can not fight back. But at the end of the day no matter what anyone says a parent will use the way they think gets results.

Answer 4

You are asking for it aren't you? Yes, I do spank when needed. I also spoil to a point. Each child is different. My oldest, spanking does no good. Taking things away is what works fo her. Middle, spanking or the threat of one works for her. Youngest, just a baby-10 months, but she already needs discipline. lol It is a difficult call to make sometimes. We are human. Honestly, I think more parents should stand up to their children and be a boss and a parent more than a friend. I almost hated my mother growing up. She was strict. It didn't take much for a spanking. It happened quite often! Looking back, I am glad she was. I think I turned out okay. Married for over 10 years and have 3 beautiful girls that I have devoted my life taking care of.

Answer 5

I believe in a spanking when it's needed. I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine. It's when some parents abuse the privilige, that gives spanking a bad name. From what I have witnessed, people that say they don't believe in spanking, more often than not, raise spoiled brats, who talk back, hit, etc. Sometimes you have to let a child know who's in charge and sometimes a good swat on the behind in necessary.

Answer 6

Anyone who would use violence against a child is a coward and sets a bad example to the child.
The right way to correct a child is with the power and authority of your mind. This takes time, which a lot of people are not willing to devote to their children so they use violence as a short cut.
I went to a school where most of the teachers beat the children but the few who didn't and could control a class just with their natural authority were the ones who were given the most respect.

Answer 7

I ignore silly attention seeking behaviour, praise the good and take my child away from the fun if she does any thing particular naughty.. plus I spoil her rotten with cuddles and presents and days out. In other words.. I'm a damn good mam with the super child who knows the difference between right and wrong

Answer 8

I dont think you should spare the rod, punishment needs to applied when the case is severe enough. I got clumped and caned at school, I really dont think it did me any harm. I certainly only mis-behaved when i really thought it was worth the punishment.
Lets get it right, we all know when we are doing something that is wrong or could cause someone hurt and anguish. Its all about the rules of life.

Answer 9

If you spare the rod you spoil the child. A good spanking, when deserved, never hurt anyone.

Answer 10

children need to be corrected but with love and understanding. I listen to my children and never jump to conclusions. some parents get the spanking without hearing or seeing the story. i talk to my children and if discipline is in order than so be it. but if talking is in order then so be that. my father never listened, he only whipped me and now he is all alone wanting a relationship. I don't shun discipline however I hate misjudgment. if you love your child you will correct then but not without good judgment and that is what the bible is talking about