I left my boyfriend months ago but that day still won't leave my head.We were together for 5 years.He didn't come home for a weekend.Never got in touch with me[he has done this many times].When he did get home,I confronted him.He just got angry and mocked our relationship.I was shocked and hurt,so I left.He didn't exactly discourage it eirther.We had other problems going on.He was collecting unenployment and his nephew had cancer.I feel so guilty for leaving.I don't know if I was selfish.We did the whole on and off thing after I left.I tried all I could.Now he's otta state and won't return my calls.Last time we talked was thanksgiving.I feel so bad.Did I do the right thing by leaving?
2007-02-02 17:10:30 · 16 answers · asked by noname 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yep,there are more details.I'm trying to move on,but my guilt is still there.Yes,I've woundered about the cheating part.If he did,he won't admitt to it.Thank you all so much
2007-02-02 17:35:28 · update #1
Yes you did. The boy isn't courting you so why bother with him? You'r knocking on the door of an empty house,if the boy won't even discourage your leaving then he doesn't care for the relationship.
If you can't get leaving him out of your head then you got a monkey in your head. Kill the monkey!! Then get on with your life. Okay?
Good....now go find a MAN worth your while.
2007-02-02 17:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your b/f was very disrespectful for not at least calling you and why did he put your relationship down when you confronted him.Sounds like he's trying to turn the guilt on you to cover up his mistakes. Not coming home for a full weekend ? If I were you I would be thinking he's probably fooling around . Also, you should never stay in a relationship out of guilt. If it's not right for you .... it's not right ...simple as that.I gave up many years of my life to a relationship that made me feel bad about myself and guilty about everything that went wrong. Trust me ..... it's not worth it ! I finally asked him to leave and it was the best thing i ever did. My only regret is not being able to change the years i lost. If your b/f is gone and won't return your calls I think you should just let it be and move on with your life.If he had respect for your relationship and truly cared about you he would never do something like that in the first place.
2007-02-03 01:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe you did the right thing. If you had problems in the past, and he'd done the staying out, bit before, and he didn't make an effort to make you feel like he didnt want you to leave. Chances are he wasnt in love with you anymore, it was more like he was acustomed to you, and not in love with you. It is sad, but sometimes we have to accept reality, and open ours eyes and see that this wasnt getting any better. Dont feel bad, you did what you could. Stop trying to blame yourself for something you didnt do. Pick your head up and focus on your own life and move on...Do something productive, that will certainly help get your mind off of this. GOOD Luck!
2007-02-03 01:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by MOON13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you acted on impulse a little bit. You are obviously still feeling some guilt about it, and in that respect I would say, no you didn't do the right thing. You have to do whats in your heart, not what your brain tells your heart to feel. You truly love this guy and it might not be able to work anymore. But keep trying and good luck.
2007-02-03 01:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing leaving. This guy at least for now is confused and foggy about his intentions. I doubt if he really loves you ; maybe he just needs you for the companionship.
Take comfort in the fact that if he really loves you, he will definitely come back to you - and come back a better person.
2007-02-03 01:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by lock j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me?? Let's see...he stayed out all weekend with no word to you (which apparently he's done more than once), mocked your relationship, and you had "other problems", and you're thinking you were wrong?
Get past it. Why would you want someone around that would treat you that way?
2007-02-03 01:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would just up and leave for a weekend at a time and not contact you, then yes you did the right thing... find yourself someone else, and strive to be happy
2007-02-03 01:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by emtb9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With out a doubt you did the right thing. It was over, time to get on with your life. Don't look back.
Good Luck
2007-02-03 01:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ironwolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not want to continue the relashionship with you anymore. You should move on and find somebody else. You did the right thing.
2007-02-03 01:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by pellmell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did.... he moved on , you need to also.... there is more to this that you are not willing to share & that's ok, which means you know deep down you are doing the right thing by moving on.
2007-02-03 01:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋