if your girlfriend was raped and she got pregnant, would you keep the baby and knowing that the baby is not yours?
2007-02-02 17:03:20 · 22 answers · asked by edwin t 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Rape is a crime and so is murder
2007-02-07 18:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the baby's fault that your girlfriend was raped. It doesn't take DNA to be a family, or to love someone as your own. Your question is sorta selfish... Your girlfriend was raped, and now is pregnant... have you considered what type of problems she may be having? I think you both should be honest and open about things. You should in No way try to influence her to kill her baby, or give it up for adoption. Try not to be one of those guys who would make her choose her baby or you...Just be supportive!! Let her make her own choices. She has gone through enough. Whatever your choices are, you have to be able to live with it. Take your time and make the right choice.
I have been in the same situation, and I have a 4 year old son to show for it. I have no regrets. I wouldn't trade him for the world.
2007-02-10 10:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to her was terrible, but God brought something beautiful out of the situation. If you decide to not keep the baby, I hope that you will at least place it in an adoptive home.
It is not the baby's fault either that your gf was raped.
There are many people who would love that baby - myself included. My husband and I are adopting through a Christian agency and would love to talk with you about placing the baby if you decide to not keep the child. I hope you will consider that.
2007-02-09 06:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by stitch604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about YOU keeping the baby knowing its not yours, its about how your girlfriend feels. It is completely her choice and you should supourt her decision no matter what.
If she feels that she cant handle a baby that is the product of rape then that is fine. I personally cannot imagine giving birth to my rapists child. But if she decides she does want the baby as then you should supourt her as that is a really tough decision to make.
Good Luck with it all and I hope things work out for both of you.
2007-02-02 21:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if anyone not in your girlfriend's shoes can possibly say what they would or would not do in that situation. It is such a personal issue.
I guess that I would want to keep in mind that the baby didn't do anything wrong. But I might want to consider giving him/her up for adoption to parents who really want a child and would not hold the parentage against him/her based on the emotional trauma of the conception.
2007-02-02 21:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I am not for sure what I would do. I think it would be up to your gf to decide because the child may remind her of being raped and that may not her be the best mother she could be. But if she gave the child up for adoption she may regret it in the future because it was not the childs fault. That would be a hard decision. I am sorry if this happened to you and your girlfriend. I will pray for you and her.
2007-02-02 21:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by MB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will be the odd duck out too. i would definetly keep the child. it is not the babies fault. it also wasnt ur girlfriends fault. if u love ur girlfriend. then u would love anything that came from her. take that child in as if it were ur own. adopt the child. love it. make it ur world. make that child the one good thing that came out of a bad situation. good luck. i am not saying it will be easy. but it will all be worth it in the end. nothing in this world is better then a child and making that child feel the unconditional love that u and ur girlfriend can give it. good luck i hope u find the answer. not necessarilly here at Yahoo Answers. but in ur heart.
2007-02-02 17:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by want a princess baby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well talking from experience i didn't because it was a constant reminder and it always made me upset just thinking about the rapist child being inside of me. I understand it wasn't the child's fault but I just couldn't deal with it. I used this pill that you can abort in the comfort of your own home and you cramp up like you would if you(the female) is starting her menstral cycle. It is alot better than the other option of abortion. But like someone else said I would sit with your g-friend and discuss it with her and let her know you will love her no matter what she decides and if she does decide to abort tell her you will be there for her through it all. I had a b-friend (same one im with now) and if wasn't for him i would not have made through like i have. He was so considrate and caring it helped tremendously. hope this helps good luck!
2007-02-09 11:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm the odd one out but oh well. Of course I would keep the baby. A baby shouldn't be punished for the way he or she was concieved. My husband would adopt the child. He and I have already had this "hypothetical discussion."
2007-02-02 17:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could keep the baby, as long as she didn't bring it to visit me in prison, which is where I would be if someone raped my girl.
2007-02-06 06:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by bartender1115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you girlfriend wants to keep the baby then you would becomes its daddy. it would be the same as adoption. any man can be a father but it takes somebody special to be a daddy. it's not the baby's fault so step up and be it's daddy cause it needs one.
2007-02-10 11:48:17 · answer #11 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋