True or False - You feel the MOST love at the beginning of a new relationship?

Question

I'm feeling an unbearable amount of love for this girl I've been going out with for a month. although I felt the same amount of love with my ex g/f. It seems like as time goes by in a relationship...you start noticing more and more flaws...what's the secret to renewing the love?

Answer 1

everyone has flaws no one is perfect its not a matter of renewing the love but accepting the person giving flaws and all and still feeling that their the one for you does change over time it becomes more enriched greater understanding of the others ways.

Answer 2

I'd say false. My husband and I have been together for 2 years, and just got married a few months ago - and I can say that I feel so much more love for him now than I did in the beginning. Of course we know each other's "flaws"... But as time goes by, we also get to discover and appreciate each other's good qualities. He captivates me every time we have a conversation; his outlook on life, his knowledge, his brilliance never cease to fascinate me; I compare our relationship to a "bottomless ocean", where every day you discover something new. What's the secret? I don't know what the answer would be for you. For me, it was a lot of relationship experience, and a lot of practice at introspection and analyzing my own and other people's motives and feelings. Knowing what you want out of a relationship, and being able to interpret your emotions, really helps to find the right person.

Answer 3

Your question is flawed. Love isn't what you're FEELING. You've got what is called "the hots for her". Love is not a feeling. It's an action based upon a decision. If that were not the case, God could not ask us to "Love our enemies." He did not mean for us to "fall in love" or "feel love" He meant for us to express love, to give love.

And the answer is TRUE. You do feel the MOST hots for someone at the beginning of a new relationship if it's based on "hots". But again, that's not really what God had in mind as how to decide whom to have a relationship with. He said to be "equally yoked" in relationships. The "noticing of more and more flaws" is the realization to what degree you are unequally yoked. Instead of starting a relationship from the "hots" perspective, search for a girl with whom you'll be equally yoked. Then, as time goes by you will notice more and more how much you have in common with each other.

I teach a young men's cell group (bible study). Guys from about 18 to 26ish. The main purpose of our group is developing the young men into the kind of man God meant them to be - this puts them in a position to receive the kind of girl God meant for them to have.

To be equally yoked, do this: Run for Christ as hard as you can. Look to your left and to your right. See what girls are keeping up with you. Of these, see which ones attract you. This is the group from which you should choose a wife.

BTW - I lived "in the world" many years and experienced what you describe. I had many girlfriends over the years and it never quite worked. When I turned it over to God, He gave me my wife.

And for those of you already married, and wondering about "renewing the love" or "should we give up and go elsewhere", God is against divorce, and here is a simple philosophy on keeping/fixing a marriage:

THE GRASS IS NOT GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE.
IT'S GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT.

Answer 4

For me it's false, the guy I am with now, we've been together for 2 years and what we have now is a different kind of feeling than at the beginning of the relationship. With this relationship, as time goes on we are becoming more comfortable around each other, and the love is changing into a deeper emotion.

Answer 5

That relies upon on the guy. If what you assert is authentic for each body, then that can make me a woman, because i love feeling purely as particular contained in the relationship as her. the finest is at the same time as she feels particular via you, and also you sense particular via her. not, she feels particular via you, and also you as a guy purely haven't any emotions. You, and many of the individuals answering this question, is in hardship-free words feeding into the concept many feminists have about adult adult males having a lot less emotions than females.

Answer 6

Well you only been with this girl for a month.When we first meet someone its new, and exciting and your on cloud nine. If your seeing flaws in this girl obviously your coming down to planet earth. Honest in first month of dating you get to know the person and see if you like them. The first month is about attraction. Really you renfew love with this new girl but with your ex you can.

If you feel strongy for your ex girl friend, expect her for who is, feel strongly attracted to her...call her.....ask her out....don't be shy don't be afraid...she'll give in. I think its more of the real deal with your ex girl then with this girl.

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Answer 7

WELL I KNOW WHAT U MEAN I THINK LIKE IN THE BEGINING THEY ACT LIKE THEY LOVE U SO MUCH AND U WANTS TO BE WITH U LIKE 247 AND IS ALWAYS HOLDIN UR HAND LETTIN EVERYONE KNOW THAT UR THERE GIRL OR MAN BUT AS TIME GOES BY THEY ACT FUNNY LIKE U FIND **** OUT THEY LIE THEY DONT HOLD UR HAND AS MUCH AND THEY GET MAD ALOT WELL MORE THEN THEY USE TO YEAH IT SUCKS 8-(

Answer 8

How old are you? You know its love when you can see your future in her eyes. Anything else is puppy love or lust. Love is loving the flaws, they seem perfect or just right.... you'll know.

Answer 9

It is not the sustaining love you are experiencing. It is part infatuation, part lust, part self-centeredness that YOU are being loved. It fades after she starts to show her true colors. Plus, you start to get annoyed by the smallest idiosyncracies.

Answer 10

it's LUST dear...sorry to break it to ya...

yeah...the flaws part....be strong...

secret to renewing the love? well..you gotta fall in love with the person's personality...not the outside. then u wount have any "renewing" to do.

Good Luck

:) :)