lets start off with im 15! well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months and i still love him i just dont feel the same way i did when we first started dating. i dont want to break up with him. I just dont want him like i used to. it frustrates him that i just dont want to be as physical as we used to ((mind you; i have not slept with him!!)) i would love to feel the same way as when we first started dating but i just dont it seems like everything he does just irks my nerves. what should i do and why do i feel this way??
2007-02-02 16:38:39 · 13 answers · asked by deborah s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think this a case where he wants more than you are willing to give, and you are a bit fed up of having to defend your virtue every day because he doesn't respect your wishes.
2007-02-02 16:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you almost living my relationship. Your feelings have changed because things in your relationship have changed. Both of you changed and now your personalities aren't completely compatible. You have grown up a bit and discovered certain parts of him that are a total turn off. I think your feelings have cooled for him. If things aren't as interesting when your with him, then that is a sign that things are going to end. Also, the part where you don't what to get physical, means you feelings are starting to disappear. As must as I want to feed you false hope, I am telling the truth. Maybe you should take some time off from your relationship and spend more time with friends and family to renew yourself. If he still irks you, then you should probably split. I do hope that things will turn out for the best.
P.S. Not all relationships last through high school. Learn what you want in a man and see if he has want you need and vise versa
Just to let you know, me and my boyfriend lasted 1 year and a month. We got together when I was 15.
2007-02-03 00:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Selene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u r in a relationship at that age and things start to feel like they are not the same its because u r getting older.Meaning emotions,physcial, and the many that go with that.Ur boyfriend just not have reach that stage but when love in a relation u hold on so ur can grow together.
2007-02-03 00:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cherelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fries evaluate if you truly love him, love is a strong word to use after only 2 months not to mention that you are only 15. Relationships at this age are not useless but really will not amount to anything. As in you will most likely not merry this boy, but you might find charcateristics of who you will merry. My advice is to tough it out for a few more weeks and see if anything changes if not try to let him down softly.. this is an age to have fun and if you are not happy than you should look down another path. He is the first of many boyfriends to come.
2007-02-03 00:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by west17lake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are maturing and he is lagging behind. This is not surprising, since girls mature faster than boys.
You need to ask yourself if this is really what you want. Are you really happy? Is he really happy? If you feel better when you are apart then you need to move on. If you feel like you can't be with out him, then you need to tell him what bothers you and why.
You can't change him, the change must come from within you. In other words girl, go with the flow or get out of the river.
2007-02-03 01:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Rut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just 15.
Its very immature age, you can’t name this relation as love, its just some kind of attraction or crush. To feel true love it will take 2-3 years for you. Don’t hurry to be in love.
2007-02-03 00:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by rock_manlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the relationship has become like a routined thing to you that's why you're kinda bored about the whole thing. maybe you guys can go out and have fun, hang out at the amusement parks or do special things together, it'll make the relationship more fun and interesting. and it'll definitely draw the two of you closer.
2007-02-03 00:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by nanana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there before. i think that relationships go through stages like that, but then the spark always comes back. if you just arent feeling it, then (sorry to say, i know it sucks) but then it might mean that you are slightly moving on, and what you liked before, isnt what you like now. it happens. and it hurts.
not to be rude, but honestly, most relationships dont last forever when you are sooo young. people grow up, and go different directions.its hard to deal with (or it was for me) but itll get better.
good luck! and if you love him, you always will, but loving someone and wanting to be with them and only them your whole life with loving them is different. i still love my ex. but ive moved on, and realized what ive told you
2007-02-03 00:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look...you are only 15. I am sure that you are going to have many more boyfriends after this dude. Do you and him a favor and tell him that you just want to be friends.
2007-02-03 00:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young to have to settle. if you were married with children I would say thats how it goes and to live with it. but your young and you can move on. but remember the fresh in love feelings dont usually stick. your so young you are growing and changing and so is he. so maybe you two dont like each other as much as you used to
2007-02-03 00:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋