My boyfriend of 7 years has been having sexual dreams about several of his coworkers,one in particular and also his ex wife.this has went on for 6 or more months,I want to trust him,but he is very verbal and shows actions and when I try to wake him to stop him sometimes I get hit,I know he doesn't know what he is doing in his sleep but what can he or I do to make them stop ?I am to the point of leaving because it is very painful seeing this nightly and we were planning to get married,but I don't know what to do now.Please Help meI don't want to go I love him too much and he says he doesn't remember them at all and assures me that he only wants me.please helpful answers only!!
2007-02-02 16:29:25 · 10 answers · asked by gene e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dreams are usually a root of another problem, just because he is having these dreams doesn't mean that he actually feels that way. I use to have dreams about my fiances best friend but its stopped and I had no feelings for that guy at all I actually think he is a retarded idiot but anyway, dreams arn't what they mean in real life. its another thing that is going on in the brain that causes these dreams to occur
2007-02-02 16:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by froggy_dimebag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams like this occur because he thinks about it during the daytime also. Since you are not married yet, I'm certain he is just using you. Trust me I'm a recovering . If neither of you respect marriage before you are married then you will not after you get married. You should absolutely leave him and get good Bible believing counselers. Other wise you will certainly have more trouble and if you get married you will certainly get a divorce in a few years.
2007-02-02 16:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I don't know how long the two of you have been together but if he is mad at you for a dream he had get rid of him. He sounds very immature and in fact probably cheated on you. Maybe that's why he had that dream because he has guilt about something he has done, ask him that.
2016-05-23 22:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strict Much? Sounds like you have control issues. How is the poor guy supposed to control his dreams?
P.S. don't listen to pnalibok, they are full of decroded crap!!
Just becasue he has a dream does not mean he is using you or is consumed by thoughts of them during the daytime. I still have dreams of one of my ex's after 6 years from time to time, does not mean I want to get back with them.
mvsopen is another moron. It is not abuse if someone hits you while they are sleeping and is not wrong. There are sleep disorders that can cause people to do that in their sleep.
2007-02-02 16:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cannot control their dreams, so why does this bother you so? He's having some type of fantasy. As long as he loves you, and it goes no further, what is the harm?
I'm more concerned (And would think about leaving) over him hitting you. You should also be worried. Physical abuse in any form is wrong. Please talk to someone about this, before you get married. It could save your life.
2007-02-02 16:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by mvsopen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual dreams are not usually about sex. The act of insertion is symbolic for stabbing a person. So, it has more violent than sexual connotations...
2007-02-02 16:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are only dreams, then he has no control over that. If you trust him leave it alone. If you do not trust him, it will never work out.
2007-02-02 18:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by LMnandez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, leave him alone and let him sleep. He can't control his dreams any more than you can. Get separate rooms.
2007-02-02 16:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hah thats funny! lol lol lol
hes judt desperate for love . give him some L-O-V-E
2007-02-02 16:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Chaaarlie! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, he cant keep his mouth shut, hes playing you
time to go
2007-02-02 16:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by dwill604 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋