I dated my fiance for 10 years. He broke my heart and dumped me in Oct(5 months ago). He no longer wanted to be with me. I cried for months and am just getting over it. He just called me this week and told me he had a stroke in Nov. A month after we broke up. He told all this family and friends not to call me and tell me the news. He says he did not want to upset me and did not think it was appropritate to tell me since.he broke up with me. When he called me this week he said he would like to get together for breakfast and talk. He can't work or drive at this time. He is going through therepy. Do you think I should meet him for breakfast and see what he has to say? He would like to see me in a week or so. Please advise.
2007-02-02 16:22:11 · 11 answers · asked by Emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have lunch but don't make yourself leeched upon,he may now only be realizing what he missed out on,in the kindness of your heart show the man a little courteous even though he didn't give it you its being the bigger person and it may also help you move forward.
2007-02-02 16:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ROMANTIC in me says- Why on earth would you NOT meet him? I have heard so many times from those I know that have had strokes/ heart attacks, that when they survive, they realize they truly are mortal souls. They look at life (and those they love) with a much greater appreciation. It is possible he realizes life is short and he made a big mistake "dumping" you.
The PRACTICAL bone in my body- I have ONE- LOL, says to keep in mind you have done a lot of healing. He may simply want to have breakfast so he can apologize for the WAY he dumped you. He MAY just be feeling guilty and it will be breakfast and that is it.
So, as long as you are prepared for either possibility, what do you have to lose? What if you don't go and heaven forbid, he had another one. Could you live with that? Think it all through and be kind to yourself. Your wording, "am just getting over it" means you still care and are still vulnerable.
The ROMANTIC in me always wins, lol, so I hope this goes the way you wish it in your dreams, whatever those dreams may be! :)
2007-02-02 16:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by 8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married but i would suggest that you go to that breakfast because he could have something important to say maybe if you show up he will realize that you are the most perfect person he met .Everybody needs someone else that htye could trust and rely on maybe with your ex-fiance he was just testing you, i know it hurt you but you can still give it a try.
2007-02-02 16:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy_of_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what i think you should. Honestly my father had a stroke almost 2 years ago and he has changed a bit. In a good way. He is so how much he care more, a lot because he has a short term memory problem
2007-02-02 16:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go just for a friendly visit. but if he wants to get back , don't because he might just be using you. since he can't work or drive, be careful. because if you do go back, what makes you think that he won't do it again when he is feeling better. find someone that will treat you with the respect that you need; good luck.
2007-02-02 16:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because the most important and greatest thing you will do is to be with him in time of crisis like this because i firmly stand and believe that it is because of your relationship that he has sickness like that because he always think and he had really having hard time to adjust may be he might choose you again because he realiza that what he did is wrong... go to the breakfast that he offer and you will be full and you will not think of spending money to buy for your own breakfast. hehehe
2007-02-02 16:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas Odin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least go, if I still cared, sounds like he did think about you and your feelings when this happened, however if you had been together for 10 years and hadn't gotten married, something was wrong with it.
2007-02-02 16:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go see him and see what going on with him. know that
he hurt you when you broke up and that normal to feel at ease
but he had a serious situation that happen to him and you and
he were together for some time, so just go to breafast iwth him
keep it simple.
2007-02-02 16:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now he wants to see you when he can't work or drive??? It sounds like he is looking to use you. He didn't want to be with you anymore in Oct so i wouldn't be with him anymore. forget it and move on with your life.
2007-02-02 16:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Nonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be careful with that. i wouldnt met him yet. give it some more time with some talking on the phone. but i wouldnt completely blow him off
2007-02-02 16:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋