my gf who dumped me does not even seem like the same loving/accepting girl I used to know. She left me because I could not keep a good balance between long work hours, taking care of my blind mother in another city, and spending enough time with her. I have apologized sincerely, made changes so it won't happen again, but she is so anchored to what happened before and won't give me another chance. I mean these were not easy changes. I also lost 50lbs. none of it seems to matter...argggggggggh. Hey, life is tough...at what point do you forgive and forget?
2007-02-02 16:22:08 · 12 answers · asked by keepingitgoing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like an awesome guy.You could definetly do better.I left my boyfriend who had problems going on.That had nothing to do with it.I left cause he said he wasn't sure he loved me.If he had done anything to try to make a change,I would of fell on my knees and thanked God!lol.Hey you tried to make it up to her.She should of been more understanding.She should be happy someone loves her this much.Good luck.
2007-02-02 16:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by noname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your situation very well but from what you've said my suggestion would be to let her go. If her only reason for leaving you was that you couldn't keep a good balance and you did everything you could to fix that for her she would have taken you back. So from what I see I have to say that she seems to have other motives for leaving you.
You seem like a good guy and as difficult as it may seem right now I'm sure you will find someone better suited to you and will see you for the great and caring guy you are.
2007-02-02 16:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Julie T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl should be realy lucky to have a guy like you. From my experience the more you do for people the less you are thought of! Some day, this girl will need you, trust me. My 'boyfriend' is treating me badly all because he thinks i will hurt him cause he thinks i'm 'outta his league'. I have forgiven him so many times for messing me about, don't know if i have the energy anymore though. I really love this guy, like you do your girlfriend, and i really wish he could see how much this is hurting me right now! Love conquers all, if she is meant for you then you will both find a way to get over things.
2007-02-02 22:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think she is the right one for you. You want a woman who will understand that you have things you need to do. You need a woman who will help you do things and support you. I think she got sick of being the lost on your list of things to do. Over time, people change. Your ex has changed. She wants attention, but you're always busy. If you really want to win her back, show that you have time for her. If she gives you a chance, make sure to plan a spectacular date without interruptions.
Don't forget to follow your heart!
2007-02-02 16:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Selene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 09:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are stages to a relationship.. where in the first little while you are in the mushy stage where nothing else matters but that other person and you do not see their flaws.... but then you see the real person.. and your ex sounds like she was definitely not for you. you just need to realize what a great guy you are.. and if she cannot love you for how you are and realize that there are other people in your life that need you too and you were doing your best.. then she is not good for you. you will find that right girl one day and she will understand.. and you Will find time when its right.
2007-02-02 16:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, if I was her, I wouldn't be mad, I mean, work hours and especially taking care of your blind mother! Those are things that seem very important to me, and if she can't understand that you don't have as much time as you want to spend with her, then she doesn't seem very good. Maybe it'll be better to spend some time with her along with you blind mother, some bonding, right?
2007-02-02 16:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by wordwaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay matter of perception.... Did you really see her for who she was when you were dating....
by the way women are impressed with guys who have confidence and be themselves not try to change to accommodate what you think she may want......
Love yourself without arrogance and others will be able to love you as well....
2007-02-02 16:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgive this mess. Let it go. Find someone else that is not as selfish. There are other women that will fall in love with you. If she dos not want you, then find someone that will.
2007-02-03 06:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! it seems like you have had a ruff time. but if your Ex cant see that you are a busy man, then i think you can find another woman who can. One that will except you as someone you has responsibilties.
2007-02-02 16:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Angeleyes171 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋