ok i told my friend i liked him. lets call him nick. i gave nick my phone # and he called and told me he liked me. so we both like each other and we r supposed to thioink about if we both want to try dating and i cant make up my mind. i want to date him cause if i ont then i will always wonder what would have hapend, but then i dont want to ruin our friendship. WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?!?! thanks 4 helping me!!! :)
2007-02-02 15:53:31 · 14 answers · asked by lauranakf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, the first part of your story sounds a whole lot like my past situation. There was this guy that I met not long ago and we really hit it off as friends. I felt very comfortable talking to him about anything and everything. I really enjoyed having him as a friend that when I started developing feelings for him, I hesitated saying anything because I didn't want to ruin the bond that we developed as friends. But of course when he told me he liked me, I decided not to miss out on a possible romantic opportunity and told him I liked him too. We decided to hang out and see what happens. But of course, guys being guys, he 'shied away' from anything happening because he was going away to college in a few weeks and apparently he reasoned there was no point in starting anything. During this time, whenever we would talk, there was always this uneasiness around us, like something was holding us back. It was only after we resolved to just be friends, that we went back to our easy-going conversations and exchanges. It's like a whole weight has been lifted off our shoulders.
OK in other words, what I'm trying to say is that you should decide what kind of relationship you want to have with this guy. You should realize that if you guys get involved romantically and then something goes wrong or you just decide to split up amicably, you will never really be able to regain that close bond you shared as friends. Are you willing to sacrifice your budding friendship for that possibility? Maybe all you guys are meant to be is close friends, in which case you should just stay so.
But of course if your romantic feelings are strong, maybe you guys are meant to be and it will develop into something beautiful.
Before you make any decision, try to decide what Nick really means to you and whether you're willing to possibly put your friendship on the line.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-02 16:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by amcstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating a friend wouldn't necessarily ruin a friendship. in fact it hardly ever happens. that is just t.v. drama. take a chance or like you said, you will regret it forever. i think you would rather risk it then have a regret, trust me.
once again, you will not ruin your friendship. if it doesn't work out, it doesn't and you'll at least continue being friends. that's the worst that could happen (which it probably won't). GO FOR IT!!!
2007-02-02 15:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a trial base run with him. Go on the first date and see if that's what the both you of you want. Remember your friendship.
2007-02-02 15:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by tank1show 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you both like each other, I would say go for it. If it doesn't work out, that's OK. It's better to find out than to always wonder. Everything happens for a reason. I wish you the best!
2007-02-02 15:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if you don't take the first move now, you may regret it later. Just be brave and take the first move. Whatever happened in future, nobody can predict so just enjoy the relationship first
2007-02-02 16:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay...this happened 2 me & my best guy friend. Make him promise that no matter what happens that this waz a dating experience & that ur friendship will still be the same. I made my friend promise it & we tried it.....it didn't work out & we're still best friends like b4....just try it!
2007-02-02 15:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
date him, how are you ruining your friendship.
your friendship would grow into something you both seem to want, a bf/gf relationship.
2007-02-02 15:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem, he admitted he likes you and you like him.. Then go out together and have fun..Know each other more and see whether really compatible or not?
2007-02-04 18:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Grace is a liar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u know how funny ur question is..? u like him..he likes u..what ru waiting for. worry bout friendship later..
2007-02-02 16:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out and just enjoy your life to the fullest. how soon is now?
2007-02-02 15:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋