Okay My ex boyfriend and I have been doing the JUST FRIENDS thing and lately we have been fighting ALOT. So yesterday we had a moment. He opened up to me and that hardly ever happens. Anyway, so he had a basketball game last night so I told him to call me so we could finish the conversation. He didn't. And I started getting this weird feeling something was wrong. So i called him like 3 times, no answer. I texted him like 5 times he didn't respond. Today I didn't hear from him all day. Which is strange cause we talk EVERYDAY. So a couple hours ago he called me, but I I couldn't answer my phone cause I was busy. So I sent him an IM an hour later asking him why he was suddenly MIA. All he said was "no reason. i haven't! and he put his away message up. Whats the deal? Why is he suddenly acting so distant with me?
2007-02-02 15:52:51 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he regrets opening up to you. some men consider it a moment of weakness. but you made it worse by chasing him. its best to leave it alone until you both are alone and having a nice time. then you casually say" ive been thinking about the other night when you mentioned ----. what did you mean when you said -----?". it shows that you were listening, and are curious but not invasive. when he speaks just listen and say nothing. especially no joking, accusing or attacking in any way. hopefully he will feel more comfortable enough to share next time.
2007-02-02 16:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him his space. You said you are "just friends" so stop acting like a clingy girlfriend.
Obviously he doesn't want to finish that deep conversation nearly as much as you do, so back off & forget about it.
I am sure he will call you when he's ready, but probably not to pick up on "the talk" but instead to just hang out, so don't try to bring it up again unless he does.
2007-02-02 15:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's afraid you're going to reject him. That is the way with guys in relationships. I would guess the guy wants to be with you but he doesn't want you to be in "control" of him. He wants to look like he could say no if he wanted. And sometimes he says no just to prove it. It is a fine line. If you are persistent but not too persistent he may come back.
I also wouldn't read too much into him opening up to you. Guys do that by accident all the time!!
2007-02-02 16:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by kroe_6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out the Lysol, it stinks in here. It sounds like he's playing hopscotch with another girl on the playground. Either that, or he's playing you to see how far you can be pushed. My suggestion is to not let him push you; if he wants distance, give it to him by the wheelbarrowful, and leave him be. If he's civilized, he'll get back to you with an apology; if not, well, maybe you're better off.
2007-02-02 16:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps "opening up to you", since you are no longer a couple, may have made him feel awkward after the moment has passed. He may be trying to figure out why he did that, he is embarrassed or he may feel he shouldn't have gone that route since you are only friends now. Give him some space to figure it out. JMO
2007-02-02 16:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about. He might not even know you are worried about this. He might just be going on and not knowing whats goin on. So don't fret. When guys do that stuff, it means absolutely nothing. Girls are a different story though.
2007-02-02 15:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants some alone time, that's all. In a few hours he'll be back and be fine don't fret.
2007-02-02 15:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jesse! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably getting "high" with his buddies and "playing" other women. Sorry, I'm merely speculating.
2007-02-02 15:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He met someone else, girl. Sounds like it wasn't working, so let him go....
2007-02-02 20:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by CharlieC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even love needs holiday..give him some space now.
2007-02-02 15:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋