Extreme depression, losing my spirit, I need some suggestions PLEASE???

Question

I am not goint to endanger myself, I just feel a strong lack of energy, motivation, I am loosing my academic focus I am losing an aunt to cancer, my son is acting out, I have lost my career foundation/goals, I suffered through a tedious relationship, got the strength to walk away from such a toxic man, my finances are diminshing and overall these things/stress have affected my health to the point that I have been put on pain meds I have a connective tissue disorder just found out. I am a very strong educated empowered driven woman most of the time, I am a single mom, we all try to do our best but I feel defeated, I cant rise above, I try to seek out the positive but life isnt giving that . I hide I feel becuase why bother people but I just need a little something in my life I do work out, but I cant kick this, I am not looking for sympathy or throwing a pity party, I just cant find my way back to the gifts God gives, No comedians, I have comedy central already. Thks, God Bless

BTW, I dont think I can so much choose a "best answer" but what I can really say to you all, is that I have wrote down the key words in every post so far, I will start with that . All of you said something similar but with your own real individual approach, its appreciated, we sometimes just cant shake the funk but even a stranger shows compassion, it was done here through some keys and a moniter thanks to you all, it brings joy, I will pray for you all in return and remember that our journeys really never is alone. THANK YOU

Answer 1

I read your note and it touched me. I have just been through that journey. For me, I felt God wanted my Focus and to make Him my # 1 priority.. Go to Him in prayer and talk to Him like you did us. He truly loves you. He gave me peace through the storms. I learned that I had to have more trust and faith in God. I also learned that He was refining me(Malachi 3:3). You will endure for He is your strength, and you will gain perseverance. You are not defeated He will never leave you or forsake you. You can rise above because He is in you. I prayed for you when I read this. Remember the book of Job.? I know it seem hard yet praise Him.

Answer 2

You did not mention if any counsellling is involved with these meds I hope so....people need other people....and medicine. I know exactly where you are coming from....What has helped me the most is getting out doors in the sunshine and just walking. It has made the most difference....the winter here has been bad to ive been walking(marching in place) at home and sitting in the window for the sun. I have also taken melintonin which helps me get more sleep. Lastly i have a friend with whom i speak to about every other month. She is also in a dark place right now and our talks help me tremendously. You need a friend a support group and time to get over these feelings. Your feelings are important and should not be ignored. When i say over i mean that you can get through this....you can do what ever you want in life and there are people out there who can help. I am over weight and live in a small town where i have no one close. Except for my friend who lives out in the country 30 miles from town. I have learned to be my own cheerleader and i have been cheering her on as well. I don't know if this is helpful or not but I will say please don't give up on yourself...you did not get where you are today by giving in you need time to heal and take care of yourself first then you will feel better capable of dealing with everything else. It works for me....I wish you the best and hope that you seek some support .
You are not alone. You can't do it all by yourself so go for it.

Answer 3

You have got too much going on! You need a break. You are getting overwhelmed.
How about if you sit down and make out a plan. Everything seems better if you have a plan. It will help you perceive some control over your situation.
Could be you need some down time. And your body is trying to tell you so. Do you have a friend or family member who can look after your son for a few days? If so, maybe you can get away from it all, relax, get a room somewhere, go for long walks, take hot baths, pamper and indulge yourself, get plenty of sleep, read books, watch tv, whatever you like. Then when you come back to your life, you will be recharged and refreshed, ready to handle things again. Then you can get started on your plan.
I hope this helps! Really, you are just overwhelmed. Everybody needs a rejuvinating break once in a while.

Answer 4

You could go to church more.
Go to counseling or find a support group with other people just like you. You're not alone, I hate my life right now too. I'm just trying to get through the next three years and then I'll be done with school and have my degree and I can move on with my life and actually have money and a life with a lot nicer place to live.
I have other issues too, but we all do, just don't let them try and consume you all the time. Try and set a goal and work towards it. If you're always looking inside you never see what's outside. My experience is praying for other people makes your personal problems seem not so big. I think your son would like for you to be happy and maybe that is why he's acting up. I say again go to church, counseling, or a support group.

Answer 5

Okay, I am a single mom also. What your are going through is a lot of pressure and stresses in your life that are draining you. Take time to nurture yourself. I am glad you left a draining relationship. You need to pick up the pieces and find a new or different career path and take things one day at a time. If I look only at the long term horizon, I would be engulfed and overwhelmed by the numerous hurdles and challenges that lay before me.. Instead, I work at things one at a time, and only plan for the next year or so. I take time to get out for a run and take a hot bath or get a strong cup of coffee at a favorite place. Do something nice for yourself every day. Your son is probably absorbing your stress. Surround yourself only with people who can assist, and not drain you. Good luck.

Answer 6

Consider the following: 1. Visit: www.depression.com/ 2. Learn how to centre yourself through the techniques to be found at: www.relax7.com/7.php and see the blogs of Shan Eris on "tackling depression" at www.myspace.com and while you are there, try typing "depression" in the bar near the top of the webpage and writing down the other sites. 3. It isn't good to be on pain medication for long periods, so I suggest visiting a Pain Treatment Clinic, perhaps trying electrostimulation (harmless!) or hypnosis or acupuncture. 4. Your son may need a positive male role model in his life; ask a doctor, friends and at church, etc. for advice. He should be told that you are going through a rough patch in your life and that you need his support, understanding and better behaviour, or you will send him to Boot Camp, which he won't like and if that fails, put him in an institution, because you just can't cope! See whether this ultimatum helps (tell him to ask about it at school - some would have been sent, for sure. 5. Find something you enjoy doing and indulge yourself for an hour or two every day. 6. Eat nutritious food and maintain a positive mental attitude.

Answer 7

Tomorrow is a new day. It is the rest of your life. You can make with it what ever you want. Try to be born again. Money isn't every thing either. You can be a bag lady. Who cares. I have been at the bottom of the pit. I have had the ability to kill myself, but if I had I would have left two beautiful daughters that have giving me 6 beautiful grandchildren that out the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. My first husband molested my daughter to the point of her conceiving a child. That was the lowest point of my life when she had to have an abortion of my first grandchild/stepchild. There or worse things, and another person has had worse problems. God Bless you as well and good luck. PS. I lost a sister / she was 26, I lost a niece she was 26. My sister had a gallbadder operation and died the next day, my niece was murdered. I have been married 4 times. My second husband is also my 4th, we have been married almost 14 years. Your prince charming will come.

Answer 8

You don't have to find your way back to god's gifts you really just need to open your eyes, My father died in 2004 and it was the hardest thing i ever had to face i think all you really need is to turn to god after all didn't you ever read "footprints in the sand" if not you should and if you need it honey ask. All i am saying is that there are going to be many hardships through out your life that is why we are here to fix and learn from are mistakes and if your not on the right track i truely believe that if you pray and ask god to help you he will... if you ever need to talk just write me at [e-mail] and remember even though your a single mom and struggling don't let this crazy *** world bring you down.

Answer 9

God is bringing you to a place of complete sumbission - He's not trying to test you-but He is trying to get your attention. Ecclesiastes 9:1-18 (read it) speaks of life's trials and the value of practical wisdom. The trials of life come to us all - yet for some reason we develop this mentality that we are owed something and that our lives should be long and prosperous. The days of our life are numbered and you are allowing negativity to rule those numbered days. Romans 8:28 says that "all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to HIS purpose". Get on your knees, seek God. Start feeding yourself with the word - trust me, when you start doing this - things will turn around. It won't be smooth sailing - while satan's got you right where he wants you, he'll leave you alone - however, once you earnestly start persuing a relationship with God, I can assure that things will get tougher. When that happens, just remember that "greater is He who is within you than he who is in the world" also remember James 4:7 "submit to God, resist the devil and he will flee". HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU and His word never returns VOID. Just stop trying to control things and turn them over to Him. Negativity is the opposite of positivity - and if all things good come from God, then who do you think has power over your mind. Cover yourself with the blood of Jesus Christ and rebuke the power of the devil. I pray that you see situations changed through your own spiritual growth and that you begin to realise the power and purpose of your life. I admire the fact that you've reached out and do hope that you can rise above this! Start with Jesus and not yourself and you will see the fruits of this in your life. Cheer up! God Bless

Answer 10

When we are going through hard times we need to draw closer to God. Sometimes I think that is why he lets a face some difficult things...because He just wants us to draw near to him. Draw near to Me..He says...and I will draw near to you.

Surround yourself with good positive Christian people. Go to church...Pray...be in the Word. Seek counseling. Have others pray for you.

Do you know the poem Footprints in the Sand? Read it if you haven't.

I've been where you are....I'm telling you this because this was the only way I got through. Maybe it's not the answer you were looking for...too Sunday School or something...but this is all that got me through. and I believe with all my heart that it can help you.

Good Luck and God Bless!