ok,here it is i met this girl and we just liked each other so i asked her to the movies we went and had a good time..she is 14 and i am 17...a couple of days later i asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yeah.. i like her alot but a couple of days ago she said we should just be friends(after 12 days togother)... and after 19 hours and 26 minutes she said it was a mistake and that she wants to be togother again...i am her first boyfriend,and her parents really like me..the problem is i am not really sure that she cares about me like i do about her,it really hurt when she said that she just wanted to be friends...and i am thinking that she wanted to get back togother because of other peoples advice...how can i know if she really diggs me?
p.s. we talk on the phone for a couple of hours a day and sometimes it gets a lil stale is that normal??
2007-02-02 15:32:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and by the way i figured the 19 hour part out after we got back togother...so if i am being too "clingy" how can i give her space??
2007-02-02 16:00:54 · update #1
It sounds to me like maybe she just isnt ready yet The best thing to do would be to talk to her, ask her if maybe she feels uncomfortable or if she just needs a little time and space. Dating someone older than you and having them be your first one can be difficult ecspecially if she thinks that she isnt as good as your past girl friends have been. Just give it time and TLC
Hope it works out
2007-02-02 15:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she may just be getting nervous about having a first boyfriend. She might be worried about what is expected of her in the girlfriend role. She may worry that all of this is just moving too fast for her. She might sense that you are putting too much pressure on her to be a " couple". Then again, maybe she just wants a boyfriend because that would make her " cool" with her friends. It would show that she has the stuff to get a guy. So... since you brought up " 19 hours and 26 minutes", that tells me that you are being overly " boyfriend - ish".... tooo clingy. Too available. Too always there. Too always wanting to please her. back up a little... You need to back up a little and give her some breathing room. After all, she is only 14. BUT... do something sweet but not over romantic for Valentines. Don't get too mushy, but do pay attention. Good luck.
2007-02-02 23:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this girl is WAY too young for u!! And it seems like u are a little obsessive. This may have scared and pushed her away. Maybe u should try looking for a girl around your age. IS this your first girlfriend too?? Because u dont seem too experienced in the ralitonship department. lol Well hope that helps
2007-02-02 23:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by deanda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is just to imature. 14 year old girls go in and out of relationships every week. In jr. high life a month is long! if you do end up going back out with her dont exspectit to last....
2007-02-02 23:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by mybitchingaccount 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋