well first of the story i dated ths guy b4 me & my hubby got 2gether well everytime me & my hubby(boyfriend at the time) split up i would see this guy well he got me preg but i lost it. well me & my hubby got married & split up 2yrs later & i hooked up with the guy agian & got preg. I now have a lil girl(who he has never seen) & im back with my hubby but still see this guy on the side(who has a girlfriend) hes a cheater! but no matter what happens i cant tell him no or get him out of my head i know that im in love with him but i also know that we will never be together bcuz he has 3 other kids & i have 2 other than the 1 we have together! please i dont know what to do! i love my husband but this guy is soo..?? he makes me feel good & i love bein around him what do i do?? please help me
2007-02-02 15:25:27 · 19 answers · asked by brittany 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Jerry springer; too much drama for my taste.
2007-02-02 15:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are a very weird situation. Although you may still have feelings for this other guy and have a child with him, you can't have him and your husband. If you really love your husband than put everything you have into him and your family together. He is the one who is with you everyday, loves you, supports you and is the man you spend most of your time with. He deserves to be respected and loved and you need to focus on him. You have to have some contact with this other guy because of your kid with him, but he wasn't there for you and has treated you badly in the past. Why would you want to be with him? Take a look at how each of them treat you and I'm sure you'll see that your husband is the one you should be with. Also I would suggest some professional help to talk to so you can sort through this with your husband before you make a mistake and give into this other guy. Good luck.
2007-02-02 15:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it sounds like you shouldnt be married in the first place. Because your husband doesnt have your full heart..your sharing it between him and this other guy. And you cant call the other guy a cheater without calling yourself one as well because you say you see him and he has a girlfriend..well you have a husband and basically a boyfriend..so your both the same. But honestly if i had someone that I couldnt get out of my head..they are the one I would want to be with not the guy that you say you love but cheat on. You need to tell your husband about everything and let him know that your having feelings for this other guy and all..because its not fair to him. But good luck your in a nasty situation.
2007-02-02 15:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater? What do you think you are? You need to grow up girl and take responsibility for your actions and realize that they affect many more people than just you, such as your husband and kids AND his family. If you don't want to be with your husband then get a divorce. If you do want to be with him then exercise some self-restraint and stay away from ANY other man. You need to get some dignity and self-respect. You keep letting this boyfriend back in your life and he knows that you're always going to be easy for sex. He's just using you and you allow it. Quit it and grow up already! Think about your kids if you can think of anyone else but yourself.
2007-02-02 22:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds like a dumb answer but if you know you can never have a happy fulfilling relationship with the guy, forget him! I'm not too religious but you made a vow to honor and love your husband, so do it. Sounds like you are too focused on this guy you have on the side when you really should be working on your relationship with your husband. On the other hand, if it is so easy for you to cheat and screw around on your husband with this guy, maybe you should ask yourself how much you REALLY love your husband and how committed you REALLY are to your marriage. Do some soul searching, only you really know the answer to this question. Just figure it out soon before you destroy your marriage and your family over something you "aren't sure about"!
2007-02-02 15:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before u start pointing fingers at that guy and calling him a cheater make sure ur fingers are clean first...ok well u are in a very hmm well.. hard situation ur torn between ur hubby ( " Till death do u part") and a bf who uses u for sex... hmm I think u should 4get about ur bf and just stick with ur hubby and try and make things work out between u 2....
2007-02-02 17:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you what to do, but you've probably heard it before, and chances are you wont do it. Anyways try to be stronger than your emotions, you're a woman and you're ruled by your emotions, but try to think and analyse your situation. Erase the emotional part of it and look at with reason. Is it good to keep the relationship? Besides your feelings being satisfied what are other benefits from seeing this guy?
2007-02-02 15:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn if that aint some tramp type tradgedy i dont know what is. You should Leave your hubby because you are a cheater and just be your baby daddy;s side hoe since thats all you are anyway right? well you said he has a girlfriend so that makes you his side hoe. I,m sorry but in the hood we call that a side hoe but i guess you would call yourself his mistress. Sorry!!!!!
2007-02-02 15:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Please dont stare 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up! he is a cheater and so are you. Maybe it is possible to love 2 people at once but it can be very hurtful to all those involved. Where do you find the time to manage all of this drama? maybe you could get a job
2007-02-02 15:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by glasgowgone 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek counseling immediately.
What you are doing is not fair to you, your husband, or your children.
It's time to face whatever is causing you to make these decisions so you can make better choices and a better life for you and your family. You really don't want to be the cheating wife, do you?
I know its a little harsh, but sometimes we need to hear it. Good Luck.
2007-02-02 15:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to clarify your mind and heart. You are in no position now to make any decision. Wait a little time... clear your head, evaluate what is most important, what will give you long-term happiness and not only "the heat" of a moment.....
2007-02-02 15:31:32 · answer #11 · answered by Nicky71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋