If you can not go through the greifing steps on your own then i would sugguest to go and get a good therapist and work through it, cause yes people become depressed when they lose someone that they loved. And sometimes, it takes a bit longer, depending on the lost, and how hard you are taking it. It is not an easy thing, and i am not going to tell you that it is going to go away , the lost that you feel, cause it usually does not, but you can live a normal life, and keep their memory in your heart and your mind forever, cause they did live, and were here, and loved, they would not want you to greif forever, or be sad forever, they want you to go on with your life, and it is us that is left behind that has the hardest job, and that is to let them go. Do something to honor them every year, and remember you will see them again someday, and they are watching over you now. God Bless and i hope you get feeling better. Please go to a therapist .
2007-02-02 15:37:29
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answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4
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When someone you care about either dies or goes away you will experience grief. This is not a mental illness and really it does not require medication. It is a normal part of life to experience grief after a loss.
Grief has a series of phases that include sadness, anger, fear, clingyness, aloneness, resentment and a myriad of other feelings. These feelings are all a normal part of the grief process.
If you feel a bit stuck in one phase or another then talk to other people who experienced that loss too and tell them how you are feeling find out how they are feeling. Share the grief process with them. If the stuckness continues then find a good grief counsellor and talk with them and you can learn some ways to moe on through the grief process.
Don't let the doctors tell you like they told me that you are depressed. Depression is a mental illness that is caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain. Like grief it has similar components such as an overwhelming sadness and feelings of helplessness and feelings of not wanting to go on with life. Unlike grief depression is present before a loss. A loss will make depression seem worse because the suferer is dealing with both depression and grief but it is important to note that feeling depressed over a loss is not the same as having the mental condition of depression.
The full grief process takes about two years.
Grieving does interfere with your normal daily activities and much more so in the first few months. This is to be expected and accepted.
2007-02-03 07:44:33
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answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6
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When a death takes place, you may experience a wide range of emotions, even when the death is expected. Many people report feeling an initial stage of numbness after first learning of a death, but there is no real order to the grieving process. But eventually you do have to go through each feeling to get past it. That doesn't mean you have to get past their death, you just have to learn a way to make things make sense again and eventually you will feel happy. Just remember that there is no set amount of time for you to grieve so ignore what others say, they don't understand because everyone grieves in a different way.
Some emotions you may experience include:
Denial
Disbelief
Confusion
Shock
Sadness
Yearning
Anger
Humiliation
Despair
Guilt
These feelings are normal and common reactions to loss. You may not be prepared for the intensity and duration of your emotions or how swiftly your moods may change. You may even begin to doubt the stability of your mental health. But be assured that these feelings are healthy and appropriate and will help you come to terms with your loss. And you are not alone. When my fiance died I didn't do anything for the first few months and then I finally went to the local hospice center and attended a grief and loss group for several months. I didn't talk at first I just sat and listened. Eventually I did talk and this group helped me deal with a lot of things. It is my suggestion to you that you check out a grief and loss group at your local hospital or hospice center, the groups are free.
Remember — It takes time to fully absorb the impact of a major loss. You never stop missing your loved one, but the pain eases after time and allows you to go on with your life.
2007-02-02 15:29:34
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answered by Serinity4u2find 6
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I have losted my sister, niece, mother, father, and grandparent, as well as divorcing husbands. Losing a loved one is a big subject. If you lost a loved one in death, it will never go away. It will get easier. I still think of my sister, and niece. They were died in 1964 and 1986. One was murdered, and one of medical reasons. Both were 26 at the age of death. You will never forget. But Divorce. You can replace. I have been married 4 times. Twice to the same person of which I am fixing to celebrate our 14th year of marriage. Divorce does pass. Don't give a divorce the pleasure of being depressed. Move on.
2007-02-02 15:26:15
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answered by joannlbeck 2
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I'm even depressed from losing my dear doggie last october so its much much worse for you seeing you have lost a loved one & its quite natural for you to be depressed & very sad
try to keep yourself very busy & cry when you feel you need to & try your hardest to only think of the happy time not the end time,think of the times you laughed together & know you were very blessed to have spent all those happy moments together!!!
I stay on here as much as possible because not many of my loved ones realize how sad I am & i love this site so much
It has helped me in lots of ways even when I quit smoking & i reckon along with the patches this place has helped lol
Join a support group if you think its needed because it does help at times if you have someone to talk to about it, if you want to talk about it some people prefer not to talk much.
some time in the future when its right for you to stop grieving & you are allowed to stop grieving when you are ready yourself because everyone stops at different times you can always keep a special place in your heart for your loved one & then you will get rid of the depression
all the best to you & i hope i helped in some way
2007-02-02 16:54:42
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answered by ausblue 7
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It's like a roller coaster - you start at the very bottom - total denial - and move up the incline like "this can be handled" - and then slide back down into denial and "why did this happen" -and then up again to this can't be happening. Up and down -til you find a medium that is manageable and OK - when you reach that phase you look around you and recognize all the other reasons for your life outside of the one you lost. Up & Down - Up & Down - maybe no everlasting peace but definetley a place you can live within - that may not justify the loss but enables you to continue - healthy and at peace.
From one who is there/has been there.
2007-02-02 15:45:34
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answered by nan 1
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you're really doing ok. a familiar healthy grief procedure takes as a lot as a year for someone you loved. Your ideas suffers and adjusts as each and every season, each and every holiday, each and each month passes that they don't look to be there. If a year passes and also you don't be conscious any change, then you fairly will favor to hit upon a good therapist to consult which could be functional you're making transformations on your trend of living and interactions with others to heal regain good existence functioning. until eventually a year has exceeded even with the actuality that, all you could do is shop transferring, shop busy, examine, and understand that like countless tremendous wound it is going to take time to heal to a element that you could function nicely back.
2016-11-02 04:35:54
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answered by Anonymous
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Talking to your pastor or church counsellor helps they have lots of experience in grief counselling. Get on the phone tomorrow and contact them.It will take a while to get over your grief.Prayers help too.Talk to the soul helper to make you feel better.r
2007-02-02 15:29:40
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answered by Anonymous
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its normal to feel depressed after loosing a loved one; when it gets to the point to where your "mourning" period starts to seriously interfere with day to day activities like eating, sleeping, daily hygeine for more than a few days; a trip to the doctor is warranted. i hope things get better and you are in my prayers.
2007-02-02 15:22:45
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answered by ? 3
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