should i dump him?

Question

I love my bf very very much. So much I cant see my life without him. BUt the problem is, is he cheated on me the first month we got together. Weve been together for 9 months already, and everything is great. He is soo sweet. hasnt given me anyt reason to think hes doing anything. BUt I still cant get over it. Plus he has a roomate and I always think hes up to something when Im working and hes at home with him, or when he goes to a friends house, and then we end up fighting. Usually over nothing, because he never does anything but for some reason I just get mad. This has been going on for a while. should I just let him go, or try to work it out

Answer 1

you should pay him money to stay with you

Answer 2

Ok he made a big mistake at the begining of the relationship but now it's 8 months later and your still obsessed with it. You should definately be past it at this point in time. It's not the same relationship 9 months later as it is in the first month. You really need to learn to accept mistakes. I would completely understand if you broke it off right after he cheated but now your thinking about it 8 months later. Don't dwell on the past think of the future!

Answer 3

So he cheated and now you don't trust him and are filled with doubts. All the more so because you love him "very very much", meaning you are all the more vulnerable to a letdown. It seems to me that after only one month, maybe he wasn't thinking your relationship was exclusive or was going to last. Maybe now that it's been going on for almost a year he thinks differently. If he hasn't given you a good reason to think he's cheating, I would go with the flow for now. Also, don't try to be too possessive or nagging and don't try to "smother" him. No guy likes to be controlled.

Answer 4

You get mad because you lost your trust. Talk to him about it, and let it out in the open. If all else fails and you still can't get over it then I hate to sound harsh but either try harder to earn his trust if you honestly think nothing is going on or just let him go. Good luck!

Answer 5

Ask yourself why you are so distrusting? Why do you get so emotional? If you weren't engaged in the beginning.....there was absolutely no reason for him not to look around. Was it REALLY cheating? Can he be allowed to have roommates and friends.
Don't act so insecure or he will be the one dumping you.

Answer 6

tell him you have cancer. if he bolts, it was never meant to be. plus he looks like the jerk for bailing. then you go to some remote tropical locale for a "natural cure" currently not endorsed by FDA, and have a killer tan to boot. p.s he's probably having an affair with the roommate....and has oral ghonorrhea or herpesnot so simplex 2

Answer 7

Do you trust him? If so you shouldn't have nothing to worry about. I know its hard to forgive and forget the fact that he cheated on you n its hard to regain his trust.But I think you should try n give him another chance.

Answer 8

okay, if you are in any doubt of this relationship, you need to end it. Relationships are all about trust, and if there is no trust in him, there is no real relationship. It's all your decision, but make a good one!

Answer 9

if your still hurt when he cheated on you then yes you shoould dump him but i would try to work it out at first then dump in if that dont work. good luck

Answer 10

YOUR QUESTION STATES THAT YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE DOING AT HOME, WHEN YOU ARE WORKING. WITH THE ROOMMATE. YOU ALSO CALLED THE ROOMY A HE. INVESTIGATE FOR YOUSELF. I WOULD FIND OUT VERY SOON.

Answer 11

hey misunderstanding do happen ..just talk to him ..if u talk to him than only u will b clear about it...don't just end ur relation first talk to him..k..