In the past week or so I've started making myself sick with worry about how other people think of my actions and how I seem to other people. Not on purpose but I seem to have lost control on these thoughts of mine everywhere in my head. It could be just a phone call I made to a person earlier or an email I sent to my fellowship group. This morning, I found myself awake at 4am worrying about whether I came across as goofy in the email. I do not need to see a doctor. Can you please remind me how to stop caring how other think or how to be happy being just myself or how to not worry about things like that? Need to hear it from somebody's mouth...
I am just worried sick over every single things again especially the small ones
2007-02-02 14:59:50 · 6 answers · asked by heuteistperfectday 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am sorry to hear about your troubles. Here are a few tips that might help.
1. This is a fact: worry solves nothing. It is a pointless activity. Do you really want to spend so much of your precious time engaged in a pointless activity? Of course not! You have better things to do with your time.
2. Procrastination: tell yourself you don't have time to worry right now. You will worry about it later. Put it off until another time.
3. Realize that the things that are incredibly important to you are oftentimes very unimportant to the people you are worrying about. Really...they are involved in their own lives.
4. Believe what you want to about what other people think. Go ahead. Figure out what you hope they think of you and then tell yourself that IS what they think. Remember the Double D's of Helpful Psychology: denial and delusion. (smile) These are great coping tools! Use them.
5. Change your focus to something a lot more helpful to you, such as getting yourself in the best physical condition you can be in. Consider it a challenge. Plan your healthy meals, your exercise routine, the vitamin supplements you will take. Believe me, if you apply yourself to this you will not only feel better but it will also drive other thoughts out of your mind. It's a fairly consuming task to get into prime physical condition.
6. Try reading to keep your mind busy.
7. Do these people whose opinions you worry about really matter that much to you? Do they figure greatly in your life? Would you leave them money in your will? Would they change their behaviors to impress you? If not, then you are wasting your potential on people who are not close enough to you to require this kind of dedication.
8. If you give something your best shot and you are happy with what you have done, that is what matters. If someone else doesn't like it, it's their problem. They can deal with it.
Best wishes to you...
2007-02-02 15:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. The best thing to remember is that most people are not thinking about you very often. They are thinking about themselves. What I mean is, they are too absorbed in their own lives. Everyone thinks about themselves more often than they think about anyone else. Just ask yourself if you are thinking about whether or not THEY said or did something that seemed goofy. I betcha you're not. Try reading a great book called "Shortcut Through Therapy" by Richard Carlson. You should be able to find it at the library. Seeing a therapist would be a good idea, too. You have Social Anxiety, and as I said, I know where you're coming from. Your true friends will stand by you, and not judge you!
2007-02-02 23:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by JTS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, i don't know you or what else factors in your life, but i'll tell you how i help myself. I used to be really shy, now i can talk to anyone about anything and i don't care how i come across. Just tell yourself that no matter what, the world will keep spinning, and that your true friends won't analyze everything you do or say. Just be yourself because thats why your friends are your friends. They saw that in you from the beginning, just tell yourself that you care what you think, and what everyone else thinks is secondary. Look out for number one, and guess what, thats YOU.
2007-02-02 23:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this problem too. It went away as my self confidence grew. I know you say you don't need to see a doctor but it sounds like you might be able to benefit from an anti-anxiety med. Keep it in mind.
2007-02-02 23:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get sum worry dolls
(native american pow wow tradition)
u tell each doll a worry,
put it under ur illow
and by morning
all ur worries will be gone.
2007-02-02 23:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by TheApocalypticOrgasm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always remember yourself.
2007-02-02 23:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by billbowlerski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋