im 17, how to i handle the first deployement with the boy ive loved for 4 years?

Question

i would do anythign for this boy, he is my world, my support system. it is impossible to sleep without his voise being the last thing i hear every night. He lves 3 hours away but i see him most weekends. What am i going to do for 5 months without him.?! im so scared.. please help me.

IM YOUNG....i dont know if ill be able to handle it. i love this boy more than anything...but it kills me thinkin i may never see him again.. i no 6 months is nothing compared to yr.. but still 5 month for me is the LONGEST we have ever not talked or seen or communicated and im nervouse

Answer 1

dont worry....6 months?...thats nothing!
i havent seen my husband since 11 months. he is deployed also. we talk as much as we can. we have 2 children and he couldnt even seen his 5 months old baby daughter yet.
just be there for him and try to stay busy.

Answer 2

First off, let me say that I spent 6 years in the Navy, so I made a few deployments myself. We were rarely in harm's way as there were no conflicts going on at that time. Nonetheless, we were still away from friends, families and loved ones for 4-6 months. You can't spend the whole time agonizing every minute about if something has happened to him. You will only end up making yourself miserable and physically sick if you do. Being 17, can I assume you are still in school? If so, immerse yourself in your studies, your school, and your friends. You will cherish the memories years after graduation. Write to him on a regular basis, send Care packages when you can (be sure to know what you can and can't send), DON'T spend hours watching the news about the war, but do pray for him and all the troops over there (if that is your beliefs) every day. I would caution against making some type of countdown calendar marking the days until he gets home, as the brass has a nasty habit of extending deployments at the last second. If they give you a coming-home date, plan to have it changed at the last second and if they don't and he comes home on time, great. Lastly, if his unit has a family support group, get involved with it. Most are designed for spouses and parents, but I think they all welcome girlfriends. God bless you and your boyfriend and may His loving arms hold him safe until he returns. Pass on to him America is proud of his sacrifice.

Answer 3

Listen to Armywife and Oldsalt.

Be supportive, write letters. take things one day at a time.
Most units will have some sort of support organization for families of servicemen. In the Navy it is called the Ombudsman program. I'm not sure if that is a military wide program or just Navy but the other branches will have their equivalent.

And to Old Salt... Keep up the good work with the riders. It is a horrible thing that the riders had to form up against people like Phelps. But is a great thing that they did.

ummm I also think you forgot to add the website. You talk about it but I dont see an address for it.. LOL ooppps!

Here it is: http://www.patriotguard.org/

Answer 4

Do the same thing that thousands of women have done for years. Just write loving letters and keep a picture of him handy for a short 5 months, there are women out there that go 12-24 months without ever seeing their husbands. Go cry on another shoulder

Answer 5

Do like countless of thousands upon thousands of girlfriends/wives/mothers/sisters/daughters have done in the past. Buck up, stay busy and pray for his safety often.
FIVE MONTHS? Honey that's NOTHING. My close friend was gone almost 3 years during WW2. He got married and was gone less than a week later. I was gone 13 months, 12 months and twice at 6 months each. That was when I was married. I had a gf while I was in Viet Nam for over a year. Both my wife and my ex-gf stayed BUSY, and PRAYED, and wrote LOTS of letters. I can still remember when the U.S. Navy had NINE MONTH ship deployments. They are NORMALLY down to six month deployments. One of those ship deployments, supposedly on a 'safe' cruise to the Indian ocean resulted in the deaths of 17 men AND women (USS COLE DDG-67, 12 October, 2000), so don't say BUT YOU'RE SAFE ON A NAVY SHIP. I'm not trying to be nasty about your separation.
To reiterate: STAY BUSY, WRITE HIM LETTERS OFTEN AND PRAY for him and his buddies.
If you'd like to do something special for him when he comes home, as soon as you find out his return date, go to this website, scroll down on the LEFT side and you'll see a lline that says CONTACT US. and set up a WELCOME HOME MISSION. I have been on several and the troop is completely amazed. Not only do his loved ones and family show up but so do a BUNCH of bikers/non-bikers, vets and non-vets to give him a surprise WELCOME HOME with a CORRIDOR OF FLAGS! Check out some pictures. Join us. It costs NOTHING to join, no dues and no meetings. Tell your friends, family. Pass the word! If you decide to set up a welcome home mission DO NOT TELL HIM.
Check out all the sub-sites on the home page. Once you join, you can have access to the FORUM and see all that's going on around the U.S. and in your own state. What started in August 05 with 15 members of the American Legion has grown to over 77,800 members nation wide. Then, do a google.com search on WESTBORO BAPTIST CHURCH and find out THE REST OF THE STORY behind the reason PGR's were established.
Be PROUD of your military boyfriend!
(USN/retired)

Answer 6

Do you still have deep feelings for him? Would you wait for him, if he was to return to you? In love, age, sex, height, reputation, occupation and more doesn't really count. In the other words, love doesn't have limits. All that's there is the feelings you feel for each other. Since you know each other since your kids, then shouldn't you know his nature? Do you feel like he'll ditch you and love other girls? Or do you feel he's a gentlemen? Do you think he's the person who'll only love a younger girl for money, sex, to waste time and more? Do you believe in him? All these answers are inside you. No? You've just got to bring your strength out and believe in what you think. Weather it's to wait for him or love a 7 years difference boy ;) All inside you :)

Answer 7

I'm an Army wifes, my husband has been deployed to Afghanistan and he was suppose to be home in March. Well, he's deployment was extended... Just take it one day at a time.... Write to him, support him, be there for him!

Answer 8

You know what? You will do just fine. "Love" is new to you so you feel like you're supposed to feel. Thousands of fine ladies have gone through what you are going through and they do just fine. Best to you.

Answer 9

Just find a boytfriend on the side...

Answer 10

your joining DEP like me? lol! ill take care of you :D