i lost my mom?

Question

well i was 8 and she died from cancer and it is really hard it been 3 years what do i do to like get over it and if u lost a mom and dad u will know so plz help me i really miss her and stuff but i want to get over it and stop crying all the time bc i was in class and it was muffin with mom and some one came up to me and said she can't go bc she doesn't have a mom and i started crying since then i always cry when i think about her what should i do if u help thx!

Answer 1

Your tears are helping you deal with your loss. Don't be embarrassed, let them fall. Remember that your Mom is not gone, she has just passed on to a new and better beginning. She will always be with you...just touch your heart, and she is there. You have your Mom with you always.

Answer 2

That's so harsh, do you have a grand ma? If you do ask her to step in as the mom at school for things like that. If you do not have a Gama, then and aunt or female family friend would be glad to be a step in mom. It will never be your mom, and you will always miss her. Deal with it is something you can do by seeking some help with bereavement counseling. It may help you to know that there are steps to a healthy grief process and you May not have been through them all, or even know how to take those steps at your age. You can't get over mom, she is your mom. She was when you were born, she is your mom now, and when you die someday she is still the only mom you get. Love her and remember what was special about her. She is not something you really want to get over. A cold is something you get over, a hill, a boyfriend/girlfriend you get over, not family hon, she is your mom and she loved you more then anyone ever could. If you are crying while you read this, i think that is a good thing. Its OK to miss your mom and cry.
Sincerely,
Tracylyn S

(My mom is currently dying right now and I get what you feel even at the age of 39 she is my mom)

Answer 3

Hi Alea, My father died when I was 3 years old, and when I was 8 my mom died. It was so very hard, I cried a lot too. As a matter of fact, I'm 51 now, and I still cry . I used to be really mad at my mom for leaving me. I do remember that she loved me very much, and I have some good memories of her. When I became an adult, I decided I would have a big home and help all of the children that nobody wanted. My grand-daughter will be 12 in July, her dad died five years ago. She is doing better now.

I hope you still have your father. Do you go to Sunday school or church? Well, even if you don't, there is someone who will listen to everything you say, Jesus. When you are alone and lonely, just talk to Jesus like he was your best friend. We don't see him, but he is always there for us, and will help us if we talk to him.
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Answer 4

I'm so sorry about your mom. I to lost my mom at the tender age of 8, Ive never stopped missing my mom. And Ive always wondered what it would have been like growing up with her in those difficult teen years, but i had to except it and move on. Mothers day is gonna be hard but your tough and can get through it. And people can be so cruel. Don't let them get to you.You know the saying? What goes around comes around. A mean girl started teasing me after my mom died and a few years later hers died. But that was bad and i didn't tease her about it because i knew what she was going through. It gets easier with time, but you' ll never forget. I hope this helps you.

Answer 5

Hi Hon,
I just lost my mom on New Years day and believe me it's the most devastating thing anyone can tell you. No one understands until they have been in the situation themselves. Don't try to forget her. What works for me is that I see her as an angel in heaven now looking out for me. I cry like crazy at the most inappropriate time but it's ok. Remember the good things about your mom. I remember when I was little and the things my mom did with me and my sisters. What made her laugh/angry. My sister and I are making a mural with all the cards that we got as sympathy cards, the tribute that was read at her funeral. Maybe you can try doing something like that as well. Don't feel bad if you need to talk about your mom. One thing you don't ever forget is that God knows what he is doing. He had a reason for taking her so please don't question Him. A verse of scripture that helps me is Romans 11:33-35. Read it and you will see what happens. Cry when you need to honey and laugh when you feel like it. it's alright. Take care and God bless you.

Answer 6

I wasn't quite so young when I lost my father. I was 20 and lived 3000 miles away from home. It was really hard on my mom they had been together for 25 years. I was really resentful at first because he had a brain tumor and didn't tell any one. As time went by I started remembering how wonderful my father was and all the good times we had. I always remember that he'll never really be dead as long as I love him and as long as I remember him. I started writing letters to him like every day, and even though I couldn't send them to him I felt better because I got it out. Hang in there, it'll get easier as time passes. It's always hard when you loose a parent.

Answer 7

Hi Alea! i am sorry about your loss. I lost my grandpa about 3 years ago. He was like my dad. I was not even there with him when he passed away. I cry for him all the time. It is OK to cry. Your tears are your way to healing. Your tears tell your mom how much she is still loved and that she is not forgotten. And one more thing dear, your crying for your mom suggests that she is not gone. She is still out there looking over you. Take your time to grieve. There is no such time limit to grieve. You should not be ashamed of your tears, as they are the sign of your love towards your mom and the bond that you share with your mom. And if someone makes a mean comment about it, just ignore them as they do not realize what your tears mean. I will pray for your mom's soul and your family...good luck dear...GuruBhai.

Answer 8

When you lose someone you cherish so very much, you never really get over it, you just learn how to deal wiht it better. Your tears are normal the things that trigger them are things you want to share with your Mom, my best suggestion is to try to talk with another female relative about how you are feeling maybe someone your Mom trusted and loved that way they can help you to know what your own Mom might have done to help you with this. Also, think of the good times you had together and remember she would want you to be happy...

Answer 9

Wow I am soo sorrie that you lost your mom I mean its the hardest thing in the world to lose a parent. My advice to you is to let it all out.. I mean crying can sometimes relieve your inner most hurtful feelings. Think of the happy times you shared with her and realize even through she may not be here in flesh with you right now she is still here in spirit right there in your heart. She wouldnt want you crying all the time, she would want you to live your life, complete your goals and dreams and succeed so do your best to make her happy because trust me she is looking down on you right now smiling and sad at the same time because she doesnt want you to be sad about her leaving.. She is in a better place right now watching over you with the rest of the angels... I hope this helped... be strong thats what she would want you to do BE STRONG smiles
Good Luck~

Answer 10

does your crying help you in anyway. my dear child please don't cry. i am a mother and i know that tears in your child's eyes makes mothers cry much more. do you want your mom to cry? do whatever your mom wanted you to do. your mom is surely in the heaven and is watching you. she will be sad if you cry and happy if you are happy. so try to be happy . i know its very hard but at least start trying. read good books. chat with friends on the net. i hope you will overcome your tears and gift your mom a life full of smile. though she is not at your side but think she is always with you. love you baby. be happy.