been sexually abused as a child give me some guidance as an adult. I have only told 2 people in my lifetime. I am 45 years old now and still looking for help. I was extremely shy as a child and am some better now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2007-02-02 14:46:14 · 11 answers · asked by transplanttedtexan 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would suggest finding a good counselor to talk to about this. It has most likely effected most of your life and it is something that needs to be talked about to help you heal.
2007-02-02 14:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Trish J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was abused by my kindergarten's guard when I was a child. He used to touch me a lot and say inappropriate things. I was scared but finally had the courage to tell my mom. I think that the fact you've told 2 people is great. It shows that you have the courage in you because telling people about such issues is not an easy thing. If it is possible to prove what that person did to you and sue him/her, then I would do that. If not, then you either try to go on with your life or let those bad memories haunt you for the rest of your life. Unfortunately for me I could not do anything to him because I did not have a proof, but I chose to forget about it. It only made me stronger as a kid and less gullible. Good luck and you have prayers and best of wishes.
2007-02-02 22:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by dancingcorpse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, have you talked to your family about this? I think it would be really good if you told them so that you have some support. I know that it happened a long time ago, but something like that does affect you for the rest of your life. You have trouble trusting people, especially guys, rejection, abandonment, and self-esteem issues. These are all things that you need help with and I do think that you really need to see a good counselor. Someone that specializes in sexual abuse. All you really need to find one is the yellow pages. A lot of counselors have ads in the paper and tell what they are trained to treat. It would also be good to find someone to talk to who has already gone through the same thing. I was lucky that I found someone, purely by accident, but I did. It really helped to know that I could talk to her about what happened and get advice from her to get through it. If you can't find anyone, you can email me anytime. I hope that you get through this and you come out of this even stronger. I know you can. :)
2007-02-03 06:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually abused as a teenager! The 1st thing you need to understand and accept is you are not to blame! You were the victim, not the invitor you didn't ask for this. I never asked for it to happen to me and I only told 4 people and 1 of them was my counselor to help me accept it and to be honest with her. It wasn't my fault! The person who did it is a sick man and if he had of ever done it again my dad would have hurt him very badly! I am very grateful that I learned from the 1 time it happened and became the stronger person I am today from it. If it were to happen today to me it would be totally different I would never let it happen being who I am today. I am a stronger person inside and out and I went to counseling and got therapy and did what I needed to do to make me feel better. I am OK today, and i do think someday he will get what he deserves.
2007-02-02 23:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest about it and realize that none of it was your fault. I think you'll find that once you talk to a few caring people openly about it that it does get easier to talk about.
Talking about it helped me (I'm 33), though I only told a few people. That was enough to help me move through it. Now it doesn't even bother me that it happened and I don't feel the need to discuss it with anyone else.
And if I met the girl in person who did it to me I wouldn't care less either. I now know that she too was a victim of sexual abuse so I hold no ill feelings towards her.
Best wishes and good luck.
2007-02-02 22:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the main thing to remember is that it wasn't your fault.
sometimes you tend to turn it onto yourself and how you didn't do enough to stop it..but its not true.
kids don't know any better and aren't expected to
there was nothing you could have done and it is in your past now so you should focus on the future..
i know it is easier said then done..but you should get a therapist it is relieving to be able to tell someone everything and not have to hold back and worry about judging or anything.
they will listen, understand what you are going through and can really help. i love having a therapist
good luck!!
2007-02-02 22:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by bittersweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been sexually abused, and I cannot imagine what you and many others go through mentally. But, I would suggest that you must not dwell on the past, no matter how traumatic it was. The only way is forward, and into the future. Good luck.
2007-02-02 22:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot speak from experience other than what i saw while working in behavioral health. Talking about it to a trained professional is really the only safe option. It might take you a while to find someone you're comfortable with, but it will be worth the effort, I promise.
2007-02-02 22:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do have places that you can go to, like rape hot lines, and that , and i have known people that cause of the abuse they are given up to about 20 years of paid treatment, and meds to get so they can deal with what happen. Some of them have finally ran out of their pay for this, but then their are other places and oraz. that will help them to continue, so you need to get in touch with an abuse center, or a rape center and they can tell you where to go to from there.
2007-02-02 22:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try therapy and maybe some meds, i was raped as a child as well and now I'm 38 and, finally, very happy with myself.
create new memories, staring today.
forget the past and for now on this is your new life.
good luck
2007-02-02 22:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by gerardo c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋