What does this mean?

Question

A man likes this woman and she likes him but she is also afraid and confused because he:

Acts afraid/nervous to be around her and almost drives his van into a wall with them both in it after he stares into her eyes. Shakes and goes very red around her. Stands and gazes for a long time at her as if mesmerized and frozen. looks at her through a window, smiles and winks at her, talks sexually from time to time as if wanting sex with her.

He then somtimes acts pissed off with her even though she hasn't done anything. He asks her if has done a good job with something as if wanting approval, He wants her to be alone and to have sex with other guys who are his friends but she isn't that way and would never do that. He wants her to be a traffic warden?

What sort of man is this and please don't say mad, schitzo or things like that as want proper insight into this man's mind. He is my landlord and 45. I am the girl.

He is clearly unstable in some way and I know that I musn't like somone like this and know why I do but why would he want to behave like that anyway and especially as he is my landlord and married?

Answer 1

This is a very bad situation. Please do not get involved with a married man, even though he is attracted to you, apparently. He definitely shouldn't be talking about sex with any other woman but his wife; this could be considered sexual harassment. If you can't nip this in the bud, you should start looking for a new place to live.

As far as insight into his mind, here's what I think is going on: he's a married man but he is apparently dissatisfied, and he thinks that getting involved with another woman (you) might be a good idea, but then he also knows that it's wrong, which is why he acts so embarrassed about it. I'm afraid that he might try to rape you or something. It's just so fishy and I really think you should just avoid this situation completely. You might even consider telling his wife. It appears that he is somehow trying to get you to act our his sexual fantasies (with other guys) which makes me wonder if he is addicted to pornography or something like that. It definitely sounds like this couple needs professional help.

I'd say treat the entire situation with compassion, but get out. Don't even entertain the idea of having any kind of sexual relationship with this man.