How can I restore the distance between my girlfriend and myself?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been living together for about 6 years. As of late, I feel as if we are 3000 miles apart in the same room. I have been trying to bring her closer by giving her massages and cuddling, but I still feel that we aren't as close as we once were.

There have been times when I get involved in a project, I will ignore her unintentionally. She is trying to write a book and is doing the same thing. I don't know if she is doing this in retaliation or is doing what I do without knowing it.

We haven't had sex in over 4 months and we used to have it once or twice a month. Everytime I try to be romantic, she pushes me away and uses her book as a wedge. Granted she is writing about the war in Iraq, and that thought in itself is unarousing, but the constant rejection is beginning to eat a hole in my heart.

I know that sex isn't everything. I just want to close this distance without forcing her and get back to the couple we used to be.

Answer 1

Man, it doesn't sound good. You should confront her and ask her what's up. If she's not willing to talk, get ready for bye byes

Sonora knows, Sonora been there done that.

Answer 2

You are going to have to be honest & tell her exactly how you feel. If the distance keeps on growing it may end up being the end of your relationship. You both need to talk about what is bothering you & what you want to do about it. Good luck!

Answer 3

look ask her how she feel and ask do she feel like theres this distance between u too u lived together for 6 years maybe u need to do somethin erotic with her like somethin u never done and neither has she take her for surprise valetines day is soon and my girlfriend said yall need to have a baby

Answer 4

I don't really have an answer, but your girlfriend would be appalled at you trying to RESTORE (aka bring back) the distance. :P