My deceased fathers name is Joe. My older brothers name is John and my name is Joe. My wife who is not yet pregnant wanted to name our child if its a boy Joe after me. My brother who is expecting decided he wants to name his child Joe after my father. Should he be aloud to do this? Does my name being Joe give me any right to the name?
2007-02-02 14:09:54 · 20 answers · asked by Joe P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Have you told him how you feel about this ? I believe you should have first pick in this matter....after all you were named for your father! Not him. Maybe you should suggest that he use this as a middle name or something. You really do need to tell him how you feel about this though....if your brother really cares about you he would consider some other name. You have the right to name your child after yourself.
2007-02-02 14:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by fromthecabbagepatch 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nope, sorry. Nobody "owns" a name. You can't stop him. Nor is there anything stopping you from also naming your son Joe. So there will be two cousins named Joe with the same name. Big deal. Nothing to lose family over. Or use Joe as a middle name maybe. There are endless possibilities.
2007-02-02 22:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but your name cannot be copyrighted. You can talk to your brother and tell him how you feel, but if he still wants to name his child Joe, there's nothing you can do.
Perhaps if you told your brother you are going to name your child Joe no matter what, he'll change his mind.
In any case, there's no guarantee your wife will have a boy, so wouldn't it be better to honor your father in the here and now than worry about a possible dilemma later on?
2007-02-02 14:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by LadyJag 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to name his child after his grandfather or after Bozo the clown if he wants to.
You could mention that you plan to name any son you have after you, and leave it up to him as to whether he wants to two Joe's in the family or not.
It must mean a lot to him to name his son after your father, and there's the chance you may not have a son at all; so I don't think he should change the preferred name for you; but I don't think it should stop you from naming your child what you want either.
When it comes down to it, a lot of families have duplicate names for one reason or another. I don't think you should let his naming his child stop you from naming your child what you want. Cousins often grow up and don't remain all that close anyway, and when they're little you can work out "Joseph" versus "Joey" between you.
2007-02-02 14:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have a right to a family name, even if it's yours. I understand the frustration, as I was in the same situation as is your wife. And I named my child after his father and grandfather and just got over (after a glass of wine) the fact that my son has a cousin with the same name. It's not woth worrying about. For the record, other people do think it's strange that my inlaws didn't use the name as a middle name in deference to my husband....
2007-02-02 14:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by cnIV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both are allowed to do whatever you want. I have two cousins both named Andrew after our great-grandfather. One grew up as Drew and the other grew up as Andrew...now they both go by Drew. Sure sometimes it gets confusing but it doesn't bother anyone. Your son could be Joe Jr. and your nephew could just be Joe. Or some other nickname system. It's just plan silly to get in a tiff with family because you both want to use the same name for your children. You're adults now. Act like it.
2007-02-02 17:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear yah... but you really can't do much but talk to your brother about it. If its a case of just wanting to continue the name, should it really matter who actually arries it. What if you and your wife never have a son. Quite possible... I have four girls. Just something to think about. If its for your dad... just keep the name alive ! Beside ... is there anything wrong with two Joes in the family? I don't think so.
2007-02-02 14:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dad's name is Joe, and yours is Joe, than have Joe Jr.
That is one thing your nephew can not have, is a JR, or THE THIRD, etc.
You should talk with your brother. See if he'll use Joe as a middle name.
2007-02-02 14:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, other than being very tacky, there is nothing wrong with what your brother is doing.
You do benefit in the instance that you get to have a Junior, where his is only a namesake. Your child will have something to really indicate that he is a chain of the name (Jr., III, IV, etc.), where your brother's child will only have the name. So take comfort in the fact he will have to explain to everyone who his kid is named after, whereas your kid will never have that issue.
2007-02-02 14:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should seriously discuss this with your brother. the fact that your child would be joe the 3rd is a big deal to you. since he wants to pay homage to your father ask him how he feels about having his sons middle name be joseph instead. that way he can still honor his father without making you feel alienated. besides, you're joe junior, you should be able to have joe junior too.
2007-02-02 14:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by divamommy_4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋