Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for several months. And we're absolutely in love. But now, we never get to see eachother except during school, and we haven't been able to talk to eachother on the phone at night like we always used to. Every weekend I get my hopes up, hoping that we're finally gonna be able to spend time w/ eachother, and then something happens, and we can't. Usually what happens is he says he has a day off, then the day before he gets called into work. I swear I'm ready to kill whoever keeps changing his schedule. And we used to stay up for hours on the phone at night, but now he always has to work late nights, and he says he's tired and needs to sleep. He always says he's sorry, and I tell him it's ok, because I know he needs to sleep cuz he works like crazy, but I can't help feeling really alone. We haven't had a real conversation in a week. Am I being too clingy? Have I become too dependent on him? I'm not mad at him, I just feel like the worlds against us
2007-02-02 13:26:52 · 9 answers · asked by Carolinii 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether it is his fault or not you are suffering because you cannot spend enough time with the person you love. Tell him how you feel. Maybe he can make some changes that will help alleviate this problem, like take a different job, or the amount of hours he works, etc.
I believe if someone loves you they will find a way to be together. Other than basic survival needs the relationship of true love needs to come first. If you have only spent time with him at school in several weeks then this seems too much for me.
You need to decide where your limit is. Also you need to access if he is being honest. If I had a girlfriend I was totally in love with I would find a way to be together at least 3-4 days a week if not everyday. Then again everyone is different.
In essence talk to him about it. Try to find a solution. And make the choices you need to make, no matter how hard they may be.
I hope it all works out for you.
2007-02-02 13:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be able to check in some. Even for a 5 minute talk. If you used to talk all the time, and that came to an abrupt halt. I don't think you are being clingy, you were just used to talking a lot with each other.
But on a different thought...
When I got a pet, it cured a lot of lonliness. A dog or a cat is probably best.
2007-02-02 13:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by banjo_mccain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard when things change! It stinks!
You're not being too clingy but I think maybe you need to find other things you like to do so you're not so lonely. Spend time with friends and get into other things you enjoy - shopping, pottery, drawing, whatever.
It'll help take your mind off of things.
2007-02-02 13:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world's not aginst you, it's hard for a young man. Talk about how you're feeling about the situation, then try to work out a meeting time that works for both of you.
2007-02-02 13:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to miss your man! Just give him support and remember that a week is not even close to a lifetime so you will see him again and be together. This will test the true commitment from both of you. At the end of this test you'll either be together or not!
2007-02-02 13:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by marisol_08051 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its every girlfriend's right to want to spend time with her bf. it's why you started dating, right? unfortunately, it sounds like you guys are drifting apart. i think party of it is legitimate work timing issues, but part of it is the apprehension of being caught up spending all of your time together. i would try to sit down with this guy and let him know that you're his gf and deserve some time. even a movie would be nice. if you're not comfortable even saying that, then maybe this just isn't right...
2007-02-02 13:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being clingy. i think you should give the situation some time. maybe surprise him here or there. don't push anything too much. just let him know that you're still there though.
2007-02-02 13:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by nascarxcore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, that's life. That's a relationship. Get used to it.
A week and you're complaining? I know people who have kids and dual careers and don't talk to their mates for YEARS!
Let's put this in perspective. Be happy with YOURSELF and don't let HIM define your happiness.
2007-02-02 13:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time n be patient urself.if he really loves u he w'd come back to u,ok?try to concentrate ur study in school.
2007-02-02 13:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋