There was a party at my friend's house and I met his cousin. She was instantly flirty with me, I mean we didn't even talk about anything, she was just trying to put lip gloss on me just to get closer. Well, I am a GUY so flirted back, and hugged her from behind and all those touchy moves. Btw, I didn't have a girlfriend back then. When the time had come for her to leave the house, I was going to give her a goodbye kiss in the cheek, but she instead went to my mouth and we made out on the spot. I didn't even cared about getting her number, but she got mine from my friend. After this she went more often to my friend's house and we would just make out in the bathroom. After she found out I was after another girl, whom I went to a school dance with, she called me just to call me a "playa" and hang up. So are there a lot of girls out there like this one? Or is she special in a certain way?
2007-02-02 13:19:09 · 33 answers · asked by Dathletez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont currently and have a gf, and this happen long time ago, after the girl called me me and her stopped talking and I never seen her since then.
2007-02-02 13:37:28 · update #1
Btw, when I say "special" I mean the slutty type special.
2007-02-02 13:39:01 · update #2
Young Jedi,
From years of experience with women (I am 40), I will tell you that she is desperate for attention and that's why she wanted to mash with you. She may also have wanted to date you, but her reaction to your actions (hanging up on you and calling you a playa) would indicate that she is very immature and just starving for attention.
Steer clear. She is a dime a dozen. Most women you meet will have serious damage. (And most men will have damage and play games with women). It's all BS. Find a stable FRIENDSHIP that is not all about physical aspects. And you will be happier! It took me 20 years to get over the sexual aspects and value what is REAL. Good advice here.
2007-02-02 13:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nathan L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys and girls do not think the same way. Just learn this now and when something is done that makes absolutely no sense to you, you can revert back to this.
Usually:
When a guy makes out, it may just be making out (am I right or wrong guys?)
When a girl makes out, there are definite feelings involved (am I right or wrong girls?)
When that girl made out with you, she may have interpreted that you would only be making out with her and that you were in a relationship-so that is why she did that to you.
Even if a girl makes you think that she is o.k. with asexual relationship without attachments, that may not be the case-she may be hoping for the day you will change your mind.
this is kind of like the guy who is attracted to a girl and says all he wants is friendship and is really waiting and hoping she puts her guard down so that he can make out with her.
Even if you explain that you have a girl friend and this is only a sex thing, that woman may think that she will change your mind.
This is very dangerous.
Believe me when I say that we do not think alike at all so do not try to understand this form your perspective-I am telling you the truth.
2007-02-02 13:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is poor communication between the two of you. Since you were always ready, willing, and able to make out with her everytime you saw her she most likely took it that you two were an item or at least on your way to becoming an item. You should have told her that you were not serious about her or didn't want to be commited to just one person. But I feel that you led her on by being physical with her and then dating other girls when she was not around. Just learn the lesson for next time. Make sure both of you talk and agree on the terms of the relationship. Never assume anything.
2007-02-02 13:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by evergoth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak to her behavior but if making out with one girl while being after another girl doesn't make you a playa then what does?
Geesh. I don't know if she is 'special' or just silly or really liked you or what but come on. You responsible for your own behavior. Are there a lot of guys out there like this? Probably but that doesn't make it OK and it DOES make you a 'playa'
2007-02-02 13:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by laurie888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the type that has the following conditions:
1). Do not trust. Girl is interested in having fun. Doesn't matter who, doesn't matter when.
2) Do not form permenant relationships with. Girl is not interested in long term, only short term.
3) Get what you want from her, then go away, if this is your goal, do it quickly. It not love, its not even friendship. Its a quick screw.
4) Advice: Do not come in contact with this type of girl again. This type has DANGER DO NOT CROSS all over it.
2007-02-02 13:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think she's special in a certain way but I would sort of have said the same thing. Even though you made out with her and everything you weren't her boyfriend or anything.
2007-02-02 13:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by a.j. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course there are ...
Only you can determine if she is "special" or not.
If all you did was kiss and make out a few times, what is the big deal if you are a "playa" ??
I guess she wants something more then that from you .......
2007-02-02 13:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dathletez,
Um, obviously she liked you and thought that you were hot, but didn't like the idea that you were seeing someone else. Most guys would have given their left nut to see this girl, but you liked this other girl. So, yes, you were playing her, weren't you?
I hope that you didn't make her paranoid so that she won't want to make-out with other guys now that you messed with her head. Hopefully, she'll meet up with another guy that is more worthy of her.
--Rick
2007-02-02 13:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guess is that she really likes you . If you'r interested in her then tell her . Lots of girls do this type of thing , but when they do it is a special thing. They really want to be with you. And when they find out you'r trying to get with someone else it hurts them. You have to decide who you want to be with.
2007-02-02 13:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by frank w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I donno if there are lots of girls out there like this one and if there is who cares? there are ones that are not like this so lets not generalize or lable her special. Instead since u have a girlfriend now focus on ur girlfriend and dont make out with this girl anymore... she calls you a player? lol thats funny
Shes a skank thats for sure lol..
2007-02-02 13:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋