hi i have a 5yr old and a 31/2yr old who are ad/hd , they are both on ritalin and catapres ,?

Question

it seems it never ends, the older they are getting the worse it seems. i have been going to the doctor for 2yrs now and it seems a waste. i have tried anger and behaviour stragergys, can someone tell me does it get easier.

thanks to all your comments before you judge me as a mother it took me 3yrs of hell with my 5yr old and 2yrs of bashings and slicing me with knifes etc and hospitalisation with my 2yr old daughter to get my 2 boys help. and yes i have tried mingle with my kids anger management plus child mental health as well. so before you judge me go and have two boys with the same mental health problem amd see if your not pulling your hair out.

i have everyone on here stating this this and that, i asked for help on wether it gets better not to be run down. i have tried everything, i tell my kids i love them and they are good i praise them etc.. im single i have no partner and when your 5yr old can stand there and bash his own mother and have no remorse or feelings about doing it, then what do i do still love him and do nothing.... come on stop running me down on the poiunt i have medicated my 2 boys .. i only wanted someones advice.

Answer 1

First of all, I want to say that I am sorry that you are in such a hard situation. Raising two children with that severe of ADHD (and possibly other things), especially by yourself, is extremely challenging. Good for you for getting them help! I don't know if I can give you an answer to "will it get easier" because I don't know you or your kids personally and I don't know the situation beyond what you've said. Other than that, I can say that I have seen kids this young with very similar violent and aggressive behaviors that have gotten better. Sounds like your children can become violent (if they are hurting people with knives) and have a lack of empathy for others (saying that they don't care). With a strong support team of a pediatrician, psychiatrist, child therapist and possible other resources (such as family members or after school activities) your children will get better. I believe that you are doing everything you can right now to do the best for them. The important thing is to keep your children and yourself safe, and to remember that you can't do everything yourself, even though you are a single mom. I would also suggest that along with therapy for your children, you should do family therapy as well (a lot of time it works with meetings happening with just the parent/just the kid and then meeting with both or the whole family). This way you can have someone to talk to and problem solve what else you can do to help your child. That's why I believe in the cheesy saying "it takes a village to raise a child"... no one should be expected to do everything on their own, and everyone should receive help and support with raising their child. Ah, but that's a perfect world ... Anyway, good luck with this and try to keep your chin up!

Answer 2

This might not answer your question, but at least I can vent about ritalin and other adhd drugs.

Ritalin is the lazy way out of raising a "difficult" child. I say "difficult" because that is a subjective term. Great, you gave birth to little monsters--just like, oh, pretty much everyone. The difference between a "calm" child's behavior and a "difficult" child's behavior is the reaction and subsequent action of the parent.

A "difficult" child can be exhausting to rear. He/she will wear you down. He/she will test boundaries you didn't even know existed. Hmmm, a "difficult" child is actually starting to sound very much like a "normal" child. The parent that can't handle it gets ritalin to drug the child into submission.

So you have two children who have been drugged, and may have side effects from the drugs causing deeper emotional and mental problems. Perhaps that's why in your eyes, they are getting "worse."

Are you a single parent? If so, then you need to be strong enough to act as a nurturer and a disciplinarian, usually roles adopted by a mother AND a father. You can't be a doormat. You have to set rules and boundaries, and you have to follow through with punishments. None of that requires drugs.

My brother was a demon-child. He ran my parents ragged. We didn't have ritalin, we had spankings, punishments, loss of priviledges, etc. He's a wonderful grown man without any problems. He was in all actuality a normal, energetic, curious, brazen little boy.

Maybe you should just watch Supernanny...

Answer 3

I have a friend whose son had ADHD. She took him to a naturopath as she was concerned about the chemicals in his small developing body. She (the naturopath) helped her a lot with their diet and stuff. It was a lot of work for her (my friend) but worth it.
Her son is totally unrecognisable!
The OTHER major thing she did was to enrol him in swimming club. EVERY morning she takes him swimming at 5.30 am. He is a brilliant swimmer, and all that destructive excess energy that he used to have is now out of him by the time he gets to school. The teachers have all noticed the difference.
End result;he is off the drugs, healthier and on his way to being a terrific sportsman. The main thing I am telling you though is, my friend REALLY had to put herself out. She did a lot of research, and has done a lot of running around for her son. Are you prepared to do the same?
We often wonder how many potential high-energy athletes are misdiagnosed and drugged out of their potential. I'm not suggesting your children are misdiagnosed. But it may be worth thinking about.
I applaud my friend, and hope that you too can achieve similar results for your kids. Take them to athletics. Karate. Swimming. Soccer. Whatever. Anything that expends their energy. Have a look at their diet. I guarantee it will be worth it.
All the best to you and your family

Answer 4

Those are too strong medications for children that young; when mostly of the time WE, parents are a big part of the problem. You might want try something different this time.
Nothing with sugar or flour for two weeks.
Take them outside to play.
Find a way to spend time alone with each one, and say
I LOVE YOU looking on his/hers eyes.
If you realize that you talk too much to them like "No", Stop", Don't do it", "I'm tired of this" or anything similar...DON"T YOU DO IT ! Let them guess what's going on with YOU ! Pretend they are no bothering you with their quirks.
Last thing, take time out for yourself without feeling guilty, you deserve it !
Good luck !

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Dear, I can not believe your story but I will try...the other answers are really in the same direction....what does your gut feeling say. Do you think the doctor is right to give your baby's medication? This age group needs love, love love, positive reassurance....Try giving them positive compliments maybe start with10 compliments a day and you’re self too. Avoid candy and sugar. Boys are active and explorative...See source. Try EFT on yourself and your children and wean them off the medication.....Dear what else can I say...what does your husband say...Children grown and learn through love...when they are under stress in a negative environment they are not able to learn and develop themselves.....Good luck and enjoy every moment with your children.

Answer 7

I'm surprised your pediatrician actually gave you those prescriptions. I say change doctors. ADHD is not typically diagnosed that young. In fact,the behaviors associated with the condition are to be expected in kids that age. Find another doctor, get a 2nd opinion. Your kids are too young to be on those meds.

Answer 8

how are u able or the doc able to diagnose a child with adhd at such a young age? 5 and 3 year olds are naturally hyper...im not saying the doctor is wrong but maybe u nedd to go see another or a specialist

Answer 9

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