why do guys want a 3 some?

Question

like say, your in a committed relationship, why would a guy out of no where ask you if your up for a three some with your best friend? why? no sarcastic remarks!

Answer 1

First off not all men do. I'd prefer an intimate connection with my mate than risk things by spicing things up. When relationships get outside the box they tend to stay there and eventually atrophy because the focus is taken off of one another.

There is a reason most people are concerned with there partner having sex with another person. It is because this type of behavior weakens the emotional bonds that help a relationship stay together.

If your boyfriend has asked you to do this you might want to consider that he might not be the right person for you. If he was totally in love with you he would not want to seek fulfillment somewhere else.

This is your answer, he is seeking via experience to full the spiritual void within himself. If he was comfortable with his existence he would not feel the need to seek extremes to feel alive.

Do not give in because you have feelings for him. The best thing you can do is probably take a break and or get relationship counseling. He needs to find what is most important to him in this life. It is either you or it is not.

We all deserve to be with a person who loves us on a soul mate level. If you love yourself enough to defend your boundaries then when the right person comes along it will be pure bliss to allow them to pass on through and enter a place more sacred than solely the physical.

Answer 2

I am a psychologist, and to be definitive, there is no absolute answer. Yet the most common reason is that males tend to desire multiple sexual partners at once to inflate there ego. Main stream media has men defined in terms of how many
"chicks" they "pull". Two or more at a time is the ultimate show of dominance and masculinity. Don't take it as offensive, and if you have a very deep and trusting relationship, and you are into that kind of thing, do it. Sex is a wonderful thing and modern day religions have it defined as a sin, but it is the universal past time. Many cultures believe that sex with many partners at once is totally permissible as long as your partner partakes as well, but procreation should only be shared with your significant other. Open your mind, it may be the best thing you have ever experienced. Relationships that have open sexual encounters are some of the happiest I've ever seen, because they know each other so intimately, that there is no mistrust. Try opening a dialog, explore each others fantasy's, as it may be nothing more. I would recommend doing it with someone your not close to at first, so if its weird or either of you don't enjoy it, it wont be awkward between you and your friend or your boyfriend and your friend and strain your relationships. But if your not open to this, express to him that you believe your relationship should be between the two of you, and ask him openly why he desires this? Maybe he justs wants something new and exciting, or maybe its time to re-evaluate your relationship, because he desires to be with other women, and is not happy with your relationship and how its going. If all else fails, seek some counsiling. Email me if you have more questions or possibly want to delve a little deeper in to the situation.

Answer 3

thats easy to answer ... speaking from a purely male sexual perspective, an agreeable 3-some affords a male (1) the opportunity to experience on of men's largest fantasies of watching two sexually exciting women together and (2) the opportunity to have a second woman outside of a relationship without classifying it as cheating.... doesn't get much better than that.

Answer 4

Its a very common male fantasy. They just want to lay there and do nothing and experience the visual of it.

Answer 5

maybe hes getting a little bored,but more than likely just trying to look cool in front of his guy friends, pro bally couldn't handle it anyways. just tell him no, cause you don't want to see him embarrass himself.but really i think, maybe just to say he did it?guys are just pigs sometimes, aren't they?tell him you want a threesome , with him and one of his friends, bet he shy's away from the idea for awhile. but i.

Answer 6

It is a common male fantasy but I think the whole foundation is his machismo telling him he can please two women at once. Next time you make love to him instead of telling him how great he was try telling him he was simply adequate....maybe he will try harder to please you next time and stop thinking he is man enough to please two.

Peace

Answer 7

not me!!