am i depressed?

Question

My entire life I have always felt really happy, but in the past year i have gone through so much change. I went away to school for a semester; absolutely hated it because it was so far from home and all my other friends, so i moved back home. I am currently commuting to college and although i have always been a straight A student and graduated close to the top of my class in high school , i am now struggling a great deal and am extremely afraid of doing poorly. I am beginning to doubt my ability to do anything with my life, especially my original plan of becoming a doctor. The only thing it seems that i have to look forward to is seeing my boyfriend, and that always leads to severe dissapointment, due to the fact that we are both busy (with school/work) If i were to lose him now i don't think i would be able to handle it. I cant concentrate on my homework and usually end up laying on my bed crying. I hate being miserable and am really scared will this pass or should i seek help?

thanks for all your advice, but just to clarify i never said my boyfriend and i were having problems, in fact he is completely supportive. I only mentioned him b/c i know i am relying on one person too much for my happiness and there is def. something wrong with that, especially if something were to happen b/w us. we are both equally at fault for not having enough time for each other. we both go to school full time and work. other than that I love the time we do spend together, almost too much, and for that i miss him even more. sorry for the confusion

Answer 1

You are going through a rough time right now and are exhibiting signs of depression. You need to see your family doctor to tell him or her about how you are feeling. Your emotional health is just as important as your physical health. Your doctor will be able to tell what action to take. You probably should be seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist to discuss your situation. It's a good thing to reach out and ask for help. We all go through difficult times in our lives where we become very unhappy and doubt ourselves. When signs of depression appear, such as yours, you need to reach out and get help.
Good luck!

Answer 2

You don't have depression... you have life.

Sounds like a typical string of events when you are at the stage in life that involves vast changes, like attending college. If you take meds to help you, then you are taking away the very thing that makes life what it is!

Not everything in life is sunshine and candy. You are encountering tough decisions like: what subject interests you enough to major in it for 4 long years of college; who is your ideal mate; what to do about relationships that change as both people grow older; how to leave your childhood home and stand on your own two feet, etc. Just because you grew up thinking you'd be a doctor, doesn't mean you HAVE to be! It's OK!

So chill out--I've been there, done that. You're gonna be fine. You're not depressed. If you went to a doc and complained about anything--they'll sell you depression pills. It's that easy these days. Know why? Because depression can't be characterized for everyone. Your so-called depression may be unique to you, and if you think you have it, the doc will only agree with you.

Here's what you do--find things that make YOU happy, and do them. Screw what everyone else thinks--your parents, your boyfriend (who isn't much of one, is he?), your friends, teachers, classmates, etc. I'm not saying to lose the momentum you have going at school--that's a responsibility that will help you down the line, just stay with it and try your best. Just take time for yourself or you're going to lose all your motivation (you sound like it already). Remember, you are going to be with yourself for the rest of your life--other people will come and go. Make yourself happy.

Another thing--You're not perfect. You never were, you never will be. Accept it.

Answer 3

!!Yes you should seek help You can take some medication to get you over this rough spot. Advice: do not pin your joy on another person, You will be disappointed and place yourself into a more depressive situation. I think that you need a good physical to rule out anything medical. Things have changed you are no longer in high school. Classes are harder and apparently you really missed your family you may be still working through that. You will get through it

Answer 4

Sounds really hard. You can always talk it out to a friend or someone you trust, listen to some good-influence music or take some time to exercise to refresh your mind. From what i've heard that exercise gives you endorphins and endorphins makes you happy. If non of that works, i can always pray for you.

Dear God,
Please remove js' drepression from him. He's suffering really bad right now and needs your peace and gentle guidance. I pray that things will turn out for the best and will work out soon.

In Jesus name,
Amen.

I hope this'll give you comfort for your days to come.

Answer 5

well it could pass if you knew how to let it pass, but i would say the way you are feeling and acting that you need to go and see a therapist, and get some serious help, so you and your boyfriend can quit having disagreements, and you can get that self esteem of yours back and you become that doctor you want to be and help others.

Answer 6

Heres a good article i found http://tjek.nu/sv talks about depression and the best treatments for an easy cure hope it helps!

Answer 7

your living in an in-between time in your life..and, you are not settled yet...all kinds of lose ends from your explanation of your life...you have to understand, that life isnt always what we want it to be...and, we need to concentrate on what we want in life...and, go threw (what you are going threw) in order to accomplish our goals...you need to keep your eyes on the prize so to speak..I dont think you need help...your just in dry dock...and, you'll get over it..eventually...

dont forget your faith....pray and ask God to give you peace...

bless u

Answer 8

You have almost every sign of depression. Go see someone before this gets worse.