I just had my baby via c-section Jan 23.The baby is perfect, but I had a really high fever and a severe reaction to antibiotics while in thhe hospital. A good friend (her and her husband are going to be God parents) came to the hospital during my high fever and I was really uncomfortable as it was... we tried to get her to leave but she kept insisting that she was on an antibiotic and she was fine. Finally she left. I came home on Fri night and she wanted to know if she could come that night and I told her no. Then she wanted to come both Sat and Sun and bring her 3 boys ( ages 14, 14 and 12) and bring lunch for everyone. I told her I wasn't up to that much entertainment, but she could come for an hour or so and meet the baby.(her 3 teen age boys raid my pantry and eat and drink everything in sight) I tried to be as honest as I could but she left a voice mail at my house and asked me why I was being so mean to her. How can I get her to understand that I am just not ready for that?
2007-02-02 12:42:22 · 12 answers · asked by jachooz 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She had 3 kids right? Well maybe just telling her that you really want to spend some time with just you and your baby (Congrats by the way!!). Coming home from the hospital you do just want some quiet time, I've learned that from my mother so maybe just telling her that, "I love you like a sister and you know I would never push you away but right now I really need to re-group and have some me and my baby time. I'm sure it wont be too long before you and the boys can come over for a little while." This doesnt sound mean or give off a "MOVE BACK" feeling. And since she's gone through it 3 times... she should understand... Hope I helped a little.
2007-02-02 12:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tori E. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just had a baby, for crying out loud! You need your rest and recovery, and people coming over doesn't help at all! She's being too inquisitive, to the point that is bothering you, so just tell her that. She's probably excited about the baby, but tell her that if she wants to come over and visit, she and her boys will have to abide by your rules! Is your husband around? Talk to him about it! He's the head of the house!
Anyways, congrats on the baby & I hope you feel better! ;)
2007-02-02 12:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by mtngrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could simply say you need some time alone with your new born child. Or if you wanna hang out with her ask tell her ye e could come over but just her your just not ready for a lot of people around the house yet and you want some quite and simple people around like just her and you!
2007-02-02 12:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Maddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just had major surgery....have someone else call...your husband...someone else who is helping take care of you right now...and tell this woman you are not being mean...you do not feel up to visitors AT ALL....you expect to be feeling better in a FEW WEEKS and you will give her a call...e-mail pics of the baby in the mean-time...i really 'well-wishers' had a CLUE!
You are not being unreasonable (or mean!) at all!
rest and recover and get to know your new baby...then deal with the head cases in your life....
2007-02-02 15:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be completely honest. Just tell her that you're not ready for a GROUP of people to come yet. You're fine with one person, and you'd love for her to come, but you just don't have the energy to see the whole family just now. Tell her you also would feel more comfortable if she only came if she hasn't recently been sick, or been around someone who has recently been sick, because you have a newborn, and it just makes you nervous. If she can't respect that, then there's something wrong with her.
2007-02-02 12:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you're still adjusting and you're "babymooning" right now with just you, hubby and baby. You're not really feeling up to visitors yet. If she'd like to stop by on her own for a short visit (or to help you out around the house!) you'd love that. THEN....when she comes, you should be in your robe and obviously not up for a long visit. HOPEFULLY she'll be a truely great friend and bring a meal, do a load of laundry or run your sweeper for you!
2007-02-02 14:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your good friend (good enough to be your child's godparents) then just be frank with her. Tell her you're not up to it, and also, get a grip on the teenagers eating everything in site...that's what teenagers do, especially boys! Don't worry, things will get better.
2007-02-02 12:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick up for your self! Be the bigger guy or woman. of course in the event that they are announcing that they do no longer seem to be ur real pals. Say, "end pushing me around! you do no longer earnings something via hurting me. And particular, i think of your mean!" wish this helps!
2016-11-02 04:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth you like being by your self when you don't feel good and if she is such a good friend she would know that and she would not push to see you. With the feelings you have about her comming to see you and she misinterpets them .You may want to pick out a different Godmother
2007-02-02 12:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you are a new mom and need sometime to just chill. YOu are under alot of pressure and u need sometime alone. Her boys are lovely and you love them but you honestly need sometime away from kids running around. Its not your fault. Apologise. BEst thing u can do!
2007-02-02 12:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋