Why don't more parents of teenage parents make them responsible?

Question

If your kid has a kid why don't you make them be responsible. I know parents who end up being their grandchilds parent. While there kid goes movies and the mall and gets to have regular life. While i know others who make them own up to their resposiblity as a parent. They decided to have sex and have a baby. They need to get a job and if they are to young they need to go to school and come home and take care of their child. You don't get free babysitting and still get to hang out. You are no longer a child. If you want me to watch your child i will charge you like a babysitter would and as soon as you are able to work you will and help pay for the expense. I Also know one parent who kept her daughter child while she went a way to college. While another parent that made her daughter take her twins or she wasn't going to go. She did and worked and got her degree while caring for her kids because they are her not her mothers. So why don't more parents do this

Answer 1

I completely agree. It makes me sick to see a grandparent raising their grandchild for the simple reason that their child was a teen parent. I moved out at 17, got pregnant at 17, and had my child at 18. My mother in law watched our daughter for a few months during the day when my husband and I worked different shifts. We have our own apartment for now (we're getting a house next year), we work, we buy food, we pay bills. We also pay our parents when they watch our children for a few hours. My cousin on the other hand, has a 1 year old at 19. He and his girlfriend BOTH live with his grandparents (who also raised him), neither of them will keep a job. Plus it's all fine and dandy that he and his girlfriend go out to smoke pot and get drunk while his grandmother keeps their baby, I find that appalling. All that will happen to these irresponsible parents is that their children will grow to resent them.

edit: I also finished high school with a 4.0 GPA and will finally go back to school this year to finish pursuing my degree in nursing. I'm also only 21. I can't say I'm a lot further behind than girls who didn't have a child their senior year.

Answer 2

Many responsible parents know that teenagers make stupid mistakes. Some of those stupid mistakes are ones that don't result in a life-changing or life-ruining or life-ending consequence; and people get to mature and look back in horror on how stupid they were. Some stupid mistakes, though, result in a baby that has a teenage mother who will need to eventually be able to raise and support her child.

I have known those grandmothers who take care of the grandchild while the daughter goes to school, and they have said to me, "People say I should kick her out, but I know what would happen to the baby if she doesn't have me to be telling her what to do; and I don't want my grandchild in foster care." They know their teenage daughter is not emotionally mature enough or strong enough to do what it takes to be a good mother all the time. If that daughter was emotionally mature and strong she would not have allowed the pregnancy to occur in the first place.

Many parents want to make sure their daughter still gets the chance to finish school and get some help/guidance with child-care because they want to know their daughter doesn't have to quit school and earn drop-out money and live in poverty with her child.

One way to teach responsibility to a son or daughter is to be a role model. The parent who doesn't choose to kick out her daughter and the baby shows her daughter than a good mother is "there" for her child no matter what mistakes that child makes. A good mother places the wellbeing of her daughter's child and the future of her daughter before her own wishes and preferences. A good mother does things she may not feel like doing - at least while a child is too young. Being a responsible mother of a teenage with a baby and not many options sometimes means allowing one's own child and her baby to remain at home for a while.

A good mother often knows that what her daughter who got herself into a problem needs more than anything is to still feel a part of the family and have the benefit of support now more than ever. The teenage girl with a baby needs to learn not just how to change a diaper or feed the baby but that she will need to be a responsible mother to her baby when that baby is a teenager and makes mistakes.

Being a role model and an example is sometimes one of the best ways to show a daughter how to be parent. (Sometimes it is even because the girl models herself after her mother that she has had baby as a teenager too - and in case like that, the mother understands very well the kind of guidance and support the teenage mother needs.) Don't forget too: Not all unwed mothers are college graduate material.

Families do what is right for them. They work with the resources they have, and sometimes they find that working together works best. While outsiders, who have not been in their exact same set of circumstances even if they've been in similiar ones, sit in judgment based on theory and ideas, these families deal in reality and with their own set of resources and limitations.

That's why not all parents do what you think they ought to. Sometimes it works out ok. Sometimes it doesn't. Most people just do their best.

Answer 3

Okay first of all, I am a young mom of 1 with 1 on the way and if it weren't for my mom, my son would have suffered! Is that what you would rather? People that assume just because a parent loves their child and is willing to help raise their grandchildren that the young moms arent responsible! I work 3 jobs to support my kid and still need help, if it weren't for my mom taking my son every once and a while for FREE....I WOULD NEVER GET TO HAVE ANY KIND OF LIFE!!!!!!!! I understand that some grammies go to far but don't judge everyone from you knowing a few people that went to far!

Answer 4

i think of maximum human beings of the time its actual undesirable parenting and not implementing good values into their infants. the worldwide is so distinctive now then it develop into 10 years in the past and parenting hasn't caught up.they are additionally no longer honest approximately intercourse, relationships and birth control to their youngsters. yet there are of direction circumstances the place the mummy and dad do unquestionably each little thing and the teen remains too stupid or impulsive and gets knocked up.

Answer 5

I'm sure some parents feel that their kids are not responsible enough to take care of their own kids and don't want to risk that

Answer 6

they can't handle it. the parents know how to take care of one cuz they had you. The teens have school to take care of, they will NEVER able to balance both,they're 2 young and stupid.