I need an example of a wedding respond card that states how many guests they are allowed to bring so that they do not have a choice in bringing more guest than I would allow.
Can anyone help with this?
2007-02-02 12:17:58 · 11 answers · asked by natie_05 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They usually say M_________ will__ will not ___attend.
Some guests will assume that their guests/dates/friends are of course invited, regardless of to whom you address the card. You can avoid these assumptions by writing “___ of ___ guest(s) will attend”, and then pre-filling in the second blank with the number of people that you are inviting. Some may find this slightly distasteful, but it certainly does get the point across!
2007-02-02 12:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regrdless of how you word them, a few idiots will still cross out what you wrote and write in extra people because they are clueless.
You're simply going to have to call the people and say, "Oh, there must be some mistake-- wasn't the invitation only addressed to you ad Uncle Harvey? I'm afraid we cannot accomodate additional people..."
You can help ameliorate the problems by NEVER using "and Guest" or "and Family" when addressing anything, as these are not proper. You need to find out the names of peoples' significant others, and list them on the envelope, to invite them properly.
Or, if you truly intend for them to bring a friend or date of-the-moment, you can tell them this separately either verbally or with a little handwritten note. Not with "and Guest" which is what helped create all this RSVPing confusion-- people assume extra guests are OK even when they are not...
Never put "adult only" or "no children" or any phrase like that. It is bad manners to indicate anywhere in an invitation who is NOT invited. You should only indicate who IS invited (by putting their name on it!).
2007-02-02 16:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is tacky at all!
What I'm doing (making my own invites) is adding a few lines for them to actually write in the names of those attending instead of the traditional "M____"
"Please indicate names of guests attending below"
Another great idea I think is adding a line like, "___ of ___ seats have been reserved for you!"
On the 2nd line, write in how many seats there are...say John Doe and his wife Jane are the only 2 you wish to invite, so put a number 2 in the 2nd line. Then if only 1 of them can show up, they'll just write in a 1 or 2...whatever.
Also do write on the envelopes the names of guests you are inviting.
2007-02-03 08:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. This is tacky. Just write in the invitation "Mr. & Mrs. Whatever" or "Mr. Whatever & Guest." If your guests have any class, they won't invite additional guests. Let it be known through word of mouth (tell your loud-mouth Aunt B, or someone else you know will get the word out) that additional guests are unwelcome, and it shouldn't be an issue.
2007-02-02 12:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right before you specify the reply date and the fill in line for the number of guests attending/not attending, you could also add a line that says, "___ seat(s) have been reserved in your honor."
Before mailing out the response cards, you would fill in the number of seats reserved for your invited guests.
2007-02-02 13:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put on the addressed envelope, "So and so and Guest". They should pretty much get the point that the word guest is not plural.
2007-02-02 12:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Beffy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Violet pearl has an excellent answer. I totally agree with her. In this day and age people seem to think that they can invite whoever they want to someone else's wedding. The website she directed you to has excellent advice.
2007-02-02 12:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never seen any like that before. People usually know that the max is 2 people.
2007-02-02 12:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by ladyrapture1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smile and say thank you. If i will collect up the braveness, i attempt to declare something intense-high quality decrease back to them. humorous element is, I continuously convince myself they weren't being honest and basically pitying/patronizing me. that is often been that way.
2016-11-02 04:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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:) Happy planning!
2007-02-02 18:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by tianac23@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋