bf just dumped me a few weeks ago. i lost my job loosing interest in everything. my guyfriend that has always been there for me was holding me and comforting me. i must admit that it feltgood being held by someone i trust completely. i know he's dependable, trusting and a very good gentle caring person. he said that maybe we should try being together.because we always end up being there for each other. thing is i always look at him as a brother. i don't find him sexually attractive, although he is a hardworker i don't admire the job he has but respect it nevertheless, etc. but he's always there for me. i know he will never hurt me. but it felt sooo good when he held me earlier should i try with him?
2007-02-02 12:13:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Great question! You certainly don't want to mess up what you have now. The problem with getting together with him is 1, you're not attracted to him, 2, you don't respect what he does. If not you, doesn't he deserve better? Yes he could change jobs, but that's not the point. What happens in 2 years when you finally meet this absolutely wonderful man who you fall head over heels for. You hurt your friend. I think since he suggested you two get together, he may have deeper feelings for you than you are aware of. It would be leading him on if you two hook up until something better comes along. You did say it felt great having him hold you. Kiss him, see how you feel. If you like it and can get past the other stuff, maybe it would work. I guess you won't know unless you try. I just don't want him to get hurt when you're not sure of how you feel. I'm sure you don't either. Before you try a date, make some rules first. Tell him you don't want to loose him as a friend. Tell him to tell you truth about how he feels for you. If you're still not attracted to him, he'll be hurt, but hopefully after a while he can move past it. Otherwise you two may have blown a beautiful thing. Good luck.
2007-02-02 12:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you're doing it for the BOTH of you...not just to try making yourself feel better. You owe him more than that.
If you honestly think that there's a chance this relationship might work out, then go ahead and give it a try...you know he'd never hurt you, you say. But he deserves not be hurt too.
2007-02-02 20:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
by the way you describe him it seems as if you already fallen in love and if he has been with you through thick and thin i think you should at least give him a chance and if it doesnt work i have known a lot of people to go back to just being friends again its not like if you break up it will destroy your friendship thats been there forever
2007-02-02 20:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by J-Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a BIG risk, maybe you felt sooo good because you are vulnerable right now. so think it over and talk to him about the benefits and risk of loosing a good friend.
2007-02-02 20:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by senoritadelgado@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you are asking, tells me that somewhere inside you, you are attracted to him. Maybe you just don't really let yourself know it because you have that "brother" image of him in your head. Well, get the "brother" image of him out of your head and consider it. if you really think its something you might want, go for it. I wish you all the best, actually, I wish you both all the best....
2007-02-02 20:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could, but be careful, by being together you risk losing the friendship. Of course, it could be the relationship you have always wanted, but you could end up with nothing. Be very careful.
2007-02-02 20:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think men settle for being your friend? Because they aren't your friend, they are waiting for this kind of opportunity. It stinks of PIG. (sorry to be so blunt)
Tell him you would never want to ruin what you have with him by having a romantic relationship...let alone having sex with him. Tell him it would NEVER happen because he is so special to you. See how long he stays your friend.
2007-02-02 20:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooo. You may be on the rebound. It's not worth ruining a perfectly good friendship.
If it's meant to be, it will happen when you are truly ready.
2007-02-02 20:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Geaux-Geaux Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No absolutely not, it will wreck your friendship if things go bad. Even if you do go back as friends things will be competely weird
2007-02-02 20:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Christina L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go for it.. Give him a chance you will never know unless you try..
2007-02-02 20:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋