Can you love someone to much?

Question

I known my girlfriend for many years now we just started going out in november and i really love her alot we click i,ve never cared or loved no one before that's even close to her weve known each other before high school and now that we are going out i wouldnt say ive ever been this happy ive made sacrifices cancelled my myspace stopped things with other girls and tried to be the best i can be with her and i really feel safe and in my element with this girl but sometimes im not able to see her as much as id like cause of her school and me starting school soon in march but i really miss her constant we text and talk alot but sometimes her busy schedule and mine conflict times we really wanna spend together im very scared that she will drift away cause of this or there will be problems i cant explain how paranoid this makes me and how much i dont want this to happen she is someone i care more for then anybody do you think there is a thing where you can honestly love someone to much?

It's hard to ask a question when your limited and cant add all the detail you want but overall i cant go an hour or much less a day without talking to her i understand we cant always always be together but i told her i want a future with her for real she knows me inside and out and she really wants it to but i cant understand how i miss her so much and think of her constant i know i love her but is this honestly natural to love someone with so much of yourself that it actualy turns out that you love them to to much i mean theres nothing in this world i would not do for her just to make her smile or make her feels special and let her know she is loved i mean i can not imagine my life without her my true self shines with her i feel for her feelings that i have never felt for no one else i love her for her and only her i guess im just so scared of losing her that it makes me think i love her to damn much to begin with but this is a loss i really could not take so DO I LOVE HER TO MUCH!!!!

i dont wanna give no one the impression that im obsessed here cause im not it is just i care for her she came to me and said she wanted to be together and we just really started coming together at this pace we really began to known our love for one another i never had a girl treat me be nice and show me the love that she does it made both us relieze that our friendship we had should be a relationship see im begining to also think she is a bit overwhelmed like i am at this she has told me she never known someone who shows her and tells her the things i do i think maybe she might be scared like i am of losing each other cause she is truly not used to expressing feelings and i help her with that and i think maybe sometimes the distance and time we dont spend together creates in security with her thats why im so expressful to her and i always let her know how i feel and everything is fine so maybe we just need more time spent and to talk more about insecurties between us wat do you think?

Answer 1

nope, i dont think love ever has limits. you can love someone with your head, your heart, your soul or your whole life and still feel the same. i feel the same way you do with my boyfriend.. we've known each other for YEARS but only got together a few months back and in those few months only get to see each other about 4 times a month, one because of school and two, parents. and because of that our love has just grown alot stronger..

i guess it's just the way you feel, you hate being so apart that it in turn tears you apart TO BE apart and so you start missing the person alot and your love just keeps growing as only they are in your mind.. and you're always wondering what they could be doing and if they are ok.. you know?

just take it slow, you guys sound like you're doing pretty well besides the fact that you can hardly meet. and love her as much as you want, it doesnt matter.. there's no limit to love =]

Answer 2

Yes.

When you love someone too much, it's called an obsession...

Love should be constant and unchanging. Meaning, that you can never love someone any more or any less, because the love that you have has never been any more or any less at any time. It's always been a balanced constant feeling.

When it sways too much on either end...this love is not yet fully matured since any little dip on any side can spell disaster. It's nice that you're learning what the "feeling" of love is, but in a more mature relationship, you'll feel secure, you'll have no doubts ever in your mind about anything. That balanced love, that true unchanging love will happen when it's finally matured. Both you and your love will have to be the same way.

For now, anything can happen since both of you are finding our what love is and what it means to both of you. Just remember that, anything can happen and EVERYONE that has experienced this has come out alive and can live to tell that eventually you'll find your way again and be able to love once more.

Answer 3

Well, you can love someone all you want but there are different levels, some which are not healthy.

It sounds like you are almost bordering on obsession, having to know where she is at all times and always wanting to be with her.
This is not healthy.

Some people are high maintenence and some require a lot of attention. This girl may not be one of these and may feel you are too attentive.

Let her set the pace so she is comfortable. Tell her you know she is busy and to call/text you at her convienence.
Then she will have no problems and not drift away because you are freaking her out and being a pest.

Answer 4

Every day, when i leave for work, my boyfriend tells me to drive carefully.
Likewise, every day, when he leaves for work, i do the same.
and every day, when we part ways, a little part of me freezes in fear, as if something could happen to him and he could die.
My boyfriend is my life. my breath. i never knew life could exist before him. i never saw the beauty of life before him. every day is perfection.
problems happen. i'm moody. sometimes i snap at him for something he didn't mean to do. but we both know we'll spend the rest of our lives together.
Don't be afraid because your schedules conflict. before John and i started dating i lived 8 hours away. (We met, and i moved a couple months later.) even though we weren't dating, we were in love. i called him all the time....and then there was a period of about two or three months i couldnt talk to him. at all.
and yet, once i was able to talk to him, our love was even stronger.

If you're on equal footing, ie both of you love each other this much, there is no problem with it. the only time i think someone can love another too much, is if the other person didn't feel the same way. thats more of an obsession.

Answer 5

It seems you have found your mate. You want/wish for so much with this individual. Regardless of what happens do not let this "knock you down". Things happen for a reason. If I were you I would let her know where you stand and don't let her see that this is difficult for you, stay strong. Many women love to see strength in their male. Voice your opinion and yet at the same time give her the impression that either way you will be fine. Regardless of her response. Be strong kiddo...:)>

Answer 6

bottom line, if you both love each other equally, you will NOT drift but sometimes love isnt enough. you need a friendship foundation... one thing i learned that hard way with my ex of 3 years,.... NEVER take things for granted..... cherish every moment so that if you do drift, like we did, then at least you know you did everything you could possibly do to prevent it. I didnt, and when I look back I wish I had.. cuz if i did we wouldnt have drifted

Answer 7

You both need to have some interests independent of each other, after all you cannot be "Joined at the hip" all the time.
Don't smother her with your constant demand for her time.
That will drive her away faster tha n anything.
If you really care about each other, you must learn to trust each other.
Just because you are not in each others sight, can't mean you arent in each others hearts and mine.
Lighten up a bit or you will scare her away, I guarantee.

Answer 8

I dont think you can. If you have a hurt in your chest and throat when your alone, and you miss her so much you cant stand it, congrats... you are in total love dude. Love isnt this easy thing that makes you feel bubbly all the time. Thats a crush. Love is when you honestly care about her, and feel awful when your not around her. I think that is what your feeling. Love = Care

Answer 9

You can't love someone too much, but you can NEED them too much. Love isn't about need.

If she feels as magically about you as you seem to feel about her, your worries may never be realized.

The best thing you could do if you really love her is to be as understanding as possible and try to deal with your paranoia in a way that doesn't interfere with the time you spend together.

Answer 10

if u really love her let her do wat she needs to do schooling is vital! she needs an education! loving someone so much isnt healthy my ex was like that ended up in endless fights and we broke up if i were u i wud trust her! if she truely loves u then she wudnt drift away my ex n i had school together n we saw each other so much we got sick of each other. im sure she loves u so much and wants to spend time wit her but i wudnt dare get in the way of something so important! and something that everyone goes through! everyone wants to see their parenters! and she she does drift away coz she falls out of love then u deserve better but i doubt that will be the case tc n dont be to possesive it will only drive her away