after three years of being together, we broke up last friday. i just wasn't feelin it anymore. well not like it use to be. He hurt me so much but i was head over heels in love with him and i still am but something tells me that i have overwelcomed my stay with him. see he has always left me for other girls and then tried to come back to me and i always take him back. Do you think i should take him back or walk away. All my friends hate him and i beginning to see why. Should i listen to them or follow my heart? Which rite now is confused?
2007-02-02 11:57:51 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you can be i been split from my ex for about 2.5yrs and were kinda the same just wasn't there anymore however we never split up n got back together like it seems you have...he did some awful stuff after we split but we got through that and have a tight friendship which is much stronger then our "relationship" ever was. As to your friends hating him they are only worried for you and my friends were the same but I think they now realise we are good friends and are both happy...just remember time heals all wounds good luck
2007-02-02 12:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, you should NOT follow your heart because it is under false pretenses. You've been with him so long that you're in what I like to call "the comfort zone." You're used to him because you've been together for so long, & although you may love him, you are not IN love with him because if you were, it would be mutual. You cannot be in love unless it is a mutual connection. And obviously, it is not mutual considering the way he has treated you.
He doesn't sound like he cares about you very much. You felt that you overstayed your welcome in the relationship for a reason. Follow your GUT, not your heart. Your heart will always tell you to chase after the person who gives you butterflies. But your heart is not always right. Sometimes, those butterflies are toxic & nothing more than an illusion of what you wish the person was. If he loved you & cared about you, he wouldn't have repeatedly left you for other girls. You let him walk all over you by continuously taking him back. Don't let him walk on you anmore. Be strong. Let him go & move on. You sound like you're young (no offense), so you will DEFINITELY meet someone better.
2007-02-02 20:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only broke up last Friday. Give it some time. I had this happen to me, too, and I promise right now it really hurts but you're better off without him. You will find someone who treats you much better than that.
2007-02-02 20:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋