After my ex walking out on me and our son almost a month ago i find myself daydreaming and seeing different scenarios for the future,In them i`m the confident out going person i want to be,I`m driving and in one i`m down dropping my son off at his dads and his mum and stepdad and his brother are there and i`m happy and carefree and not full of the anger and bitterness that i have just now.I`ve always been very quiet and shy and have no confidence or self esteem.This person is who i want to be in the future.
Is this normal behaviour,i`m 24 and feel like i`m going insane or is it just childish fantasies to help me feel better?
2007-02-02 11:48:24 · 10 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not at all, you have to realise how you can make it happen. In my eyes you have the reason (your son) and the desire to make it happen. If I were you I would break down your dream/aspiration into key steps and work towards each one. I reckon the bitterness and anger would subside once you have had time to readjust to the situation, thats normal in any breakup. The truth is that you should concentrate on your son and yourself, dont be to harsh on yourself if it doesnt work perfectly first time when you try... try none the less. As someone famous once said "you spend your whole life with yourself, so your the most important person to get along with" Good luck
2007-02-03 22:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bamsa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't insane it is completely normal. I'm 29, 30 next month and I can't wait! The 20's are a difficult time. Trying to figure who you are and who you want to be and taking the chance to become that person. You have to think positively and don't stop...every negative thought thats comes into your head replace it with loving thoughts of your son. This will get better, may seem like a uphill battle but the trip down sure does look great! Good Luck
2007-02-02 11:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats absolutely normal. Now take those ideas and focus on them everyday. Set up mini goals for yourself or landmarks that when u do something or speak up or approach someone.... something that the person you will become would do.. then take note of it. Congratulate yourself on it. It is way healthier to dwell on the person u want to be in the future rather than sitting aeround moping and wishing for that jerkoff to come back. I am SO IMPRESSED you have no idea!
Now go after that. I wake up every morning and remind myself that I am outspoken and that my opinion matters... its like my mornign mantra. I ahve been waking up that way for about 2 montsh now nad have def noticed a total change in my behavior.. i DO speak up more and I do express my opinion more. Its all about your perspective.
Good luck girl!!
2007-02-02 11:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 04:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a theory called creative visualisation - a kind of positive thinking.
The anger and bitterness can wear off. Try and learn from this trying experience and stay positive
2007-02-02 11:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Visualising a confident new you is a very positive thing to do - best of luck and I would highly recommend enrolling on a confidence course or seeing an NLP practitioner.
2007-02-02 11:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
unless your working in that direction for independance, education, investing, reading books, working, and doing those things in your life to be pro-active to give you and your son a better life.... if your not working at this level.... then you are dreaming....
if your just day dreaming, drinking, fighting and spitting venom at the world which does nothing but waste energy, time and emotions then your on the wrong track and need to change, leaving those things behind that are daming your progress.
2007-02-02 11:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is what you want for yourself and i say go get it hunny!!
i just broke up wiv my babys dad but i not strong i spend every weekend wiv him in the hope of something better i know i need to be the strong one and say no this is me im not the easy little woman any more but............. hey just take it day by day,........... i'll make a pact with you .....I WILL BE STRONGER!! lets keep sayin it ... I WILL BE STRONGER IM NOT YOURS I AM MY OWN PERSON!! I WILL BE STRONG!!
good luck!!
xxxxxxx
2007-02-02 12:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by theoriginalbitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its perfectly normal, just keep looking at the positives, actively seek pleasure where you can find it. turn your dreams into your reality. good luck x
2007-02-02 12:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by kt_sub2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, You will be what yoyu believe you are.
2007-02-02 11:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Hammer&Drill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋