A wonderful man- should we remain "just friends," or is there hope for more?

Question

I met a man on deployment (we're both military, but different branches) whom I really liked a lot. Everything had always been platonic between us, but right before I left, he kissed me. We are both stationed overseas (and rather far apart) and I did not expect to ever see him again, but he asked if he could visit, and is serious about making the journey! Now, I'm uncertain whether it will remain platonic, if he wants more, for that matter if I want more... I've never been in this situation before, with no bearing whatsoever on his feelings/intentions/etc. I'm nervous about how to treat him. Please advise!

And PS: Yes, I enjoyed the kiss thoroughly, and had hoped for it for quite some time, but wanted to keep things on a professional level.

Answer 1

It's my opinion that he wouldn't go that much out of his way to see you if he wanted to stay just friends- especially after kissing you! If you're not sure how you feel, just tell him you want to take it slow and get to know him better. If you're not sure how he feels, time will tell! Good luck!

Answer 2

Ok he is coming ot visit u... i think there is a chance there for it to be more than friends. U sound like you would want to see how that would go... so go for it. Id say feel it out while hes there and at some point (around the middle of the visit) try to talk to him about it. By then it should be more clear how both of u feel.

Go for it!! Good luck!!

Answer 3

Be honest with yourself. Do you want this relationship as a professional level or more on the personal level. When you know what you want. Tell him the truth. Do not play game and waste your time.

Answer 4

When he comes out to visit, talk to him, and tell him exactly how you feel and be honest with him. if it is meant to be it will happen if not it won't. good luck.

Answer 5

if neither of you have a romantic interest... let him come visit and see what happens